Convincing wife to have sex with other men

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  • RHP1183146937297 Man 52yrs Geelong

  • Convincing wife to have sex with other men


    Hi All

    I find I'm unable to satisfy my wife. She is very inexperienced and after repeated questions says she never has had any fantasies. I would like for someone to seduce her with none of my involment. Not exactly cuckolding but it turns me on thinking she is being satisfied. Any pointers or suggestions. I have raised the topic earlier but her response is not interested and never shares what's she's thinking in bed but i think she needs to taken like every women does at least once. I think she will respond to someone seducing her starting from friendship first then flirting then seducing etc. Any one had any experience with convicing their wifes?

  • Rlee552 Man 49yrs Perth

  • She told you she is not interested.


    ... and that is all there is to be said. End of story.
  • MsSuperFoxy Woman 53yrs Brisbane

  • No, just nooo


    You do not try to ever convince your wife into doing something she does not want to do. It's removing her choice and disrespectful.

    If she's not interested, she's is not interested.

    She will make her own mind up, when she is ready and wants too, not when you are.

    Just back off and give her space to do that. It's the most kind and loving thing to do.

    Ms Foxy
  • MsSuperFoxy Woman 53yrs Brisbane

  • What a load of complete BS


    "think she needs to taken like every women does at least once."

    LMAO, good luck with that one.

    I think you're going to need it. 😂

    Ms Foxy
  • RHP1183146037720 Couple Man 53yrs Woman 52yrs Brisbane

  • Slow & steady


    I would start by opening up during sex talking dirty make her feel irresistible sexy..she's not going to respond if you can't make her feel empowered in the bedroom...And I think most women love the idea of being desired or as you call it taken....I'm not going to man bash you just educating you on how to hopefully fulfill a fantasy on equal terms...

    - Posted from rhpmobile
  • RHP1183146442799 Couple Man 55yrs Woman 55yrs Melbourne

  • She


    Needs to be taken like every woman does?
    To the movies?
    Jewellery store?
    Romantic weekend away?
    That kind of taken?
    If you’re talking about the sexual act I think you’ll find each woman is unique in how she “ should” be taken
    Maybe try to work out what floats her boat and you may be able to open the line of communication with her.
    If she doesn’t share your fantasy of involving another man it will only lead to resentment and tears for you both
    Good luck
    Mrs LAL

    - Posted from rhpmobile
  • RHP1183146664642 Man 52yrs Burswood

  • suggestions??





    Don't try to convince people to do something they are not interested in or don't want to do.
    It wont end well
  • RHP1183145681703 Man 65yrs Clackline

  • I can tell you THIS fella..





    you CANNOT satisfy her BECAUSE you do not understand her..


    I would go so far as to suggest that you are confused with your OWN sexuality, and denying your Bisexual inner self.

    You need to discuss with her.. what YOU need - NOT what you want her to need.


    You appear to be trying to feed your own fantasy of male sex by forcing/convincing her to participate because you are too confused and/or fearful to participate in it yourself..


    Look inside fella..

    Work out the strength to follow YOUR inner desires/proclivities and leave her out of it

    EXCEPT she needs to be aware of it..

    And SHE needs to be the one to decide if she wants to be part of it all, or to leave you..


    Just saying..

  • curiousnhorny05 Couple Man 43yrs Woman 44yrs Albany

  • Consent is key


    When it comes to sex, you can’t force things otherwise you ruin it.
    Romance her, make love to her. Spend time getting to know her body.
    Experience or lack of it is never a bad thing. The way you say inexperience it comes across very condescending.
    Some ppl are brought up very conservatively in regards to sex.
    But don’t convince her to be with others it should be her desire.

    - Posted from rhpmobile
  • RHP1183146455753 Man 42yrs Ballarat

  • Mmm


    Not the kind of "Taken" like in the movie series I guess :p

    - Posted from rhpmobile
  • RHP1183145913715 Woman 61yrs Perth

  • Hi Indy..


    Off to a bad start with some above comments.

    Im sure they mean well but just take things a bit personally and/or out of context.

    You mention "being taken", yes I agree in the context of being romanced as another poster said.

    Unfortunate as it is. Some couples are sexually mismatched. However maybe you are just trying to hard and perhaps read into things too much. Not everyone has fantasies and not everyone needs sex. Thats just who they are.

    Go read the hot wife thread. Maybe ask this question in there. There are bound to be couples who had questiond like yourself too at some point of their relationship.

    Good luck.


    - Posted from rhpmobile
  • RHP1183146915386 Woman 52yrs Brisbane

  • You aren't going to win this one dude


    The more pressure you put on her the more damage you will do with your relationship. Just do what she's happy with, she did marry you and you'd had sex before you were married so there obviously isn't an issue from her side..

    - Posted from rhpmobile
  • RHP1183146869206 Couple Man 57yrs Woman 53yrs Banksia Beach

  • Have you hear the saying..


    You can't push a rope...

    - Posted from rhpmobile
  • DynamicCouple36 Couple Man 57yrs Woman 46yrs Harkaway

  • You are skating on


    very thin ice. And it will more than likely end in disaster and could very well also destroy your marriage / relationship in the process.

    You think she needs to be taken ? Like every woman does once ?

    Taken sexually by force ? You think every woman enjoys that ?

    Does she even know that you have a profile on red hot pie?

    Swinging, in our experience, is very much driven by the male half, many of whom have plenty of experience in convincing their wives / partners to do all of this.

    - Posted from rhpmobile
  • RHP1183146555617 Couple Man 51yrs Woman 49yrs Sydney

  • So many questions...


    Are you even married? It seems like you are just trying to elicit sexy chat from RHP members.

    Does your wife know that you are on RHP?

    Have you ever spoken to your wife about your fantasies?

    Our suggestion- speak openly to your wife. It sounds like you two seriously lack basic communication skills. Go get some help if you are intimidated. Free and open dialogue with your partner is the pathway to the closest connection you can ever imagine. If you ever want to be part of this community, you need to learn how to communication on a level so much higher than you can possibly fathom. Otherwise, your partnership is doomed.

  • RHP1183145913715 Woman 61yrs Perth

  • Oh FFS..


    Why do people think the term he has used "taken" is by force! If you actually READ th OP's post he goes on to say romanced etc.

    I do not think he meant "forced"!!

    I have read comments on other threads similar to this. Why not ask what the OP meant instead of jumping to conclusions. No wonder people dont comment in the forums.



    - Posted from rhpmobile
  • Hottie1 Couple Man 52yrs Woman 53yrs Brisbane

  • 10 years ...


    It took for me to consider swinging, which was introduced by my husband. My gorgeous man patiently nurtured the idea through discussion, exploration as a couple, he even hired an escort to help me ‘be with other people (my stumbling block). Up until the escort, I had slept with only one man, my husband. His reasons for suggesting swinging, it’s sexy, fun as well as it would enable me to explore so much of what I wanted to explore ... my husband has not really been a player in the scene, so I know he wasn’t motivated by his desires. I stressed so much about being with another man, I knew how to please my husband yet I had so many questions, were those skills transferable, was I going to please others, would I do it right, was my body ok ....



    Cavey, explains it all perfectly (love your work there Cavey ).



    From a female perspective, address your concerns and hers as a couple as your first and only step at this time. I’m not going to presume how your relationship actually works but ‘questionng’ her about her fantasies may be quite off putting. If she’s inexperienced, you might be adding to any ‘insecurities’ she might have about her inexperience. Why is it that you believe you don’t satisfy her? Has she explicitly said that or are you presuming or reading into it?

    There may be so many factors to consider and we don’t know all the conditions of your relationship for both of you. For me, sex is very mental and emotional, engage my mind and then my body, make it authentic and natural ... for her it might be the same.



    Mary xx

  • mango69er Couple Man 58yrs Woman 68yrs Bray Park

  • D.


    Agree with inspirit. Trying to find the very worse in someone isnt nice. The grammer nazis can tell me weather i just did an oximoron there. I dont agree with the guy in trying to talk his wife into being with another man. Like the Dynamic couple said. Very dangerous ground your on when it comes to your marriage. I have used the word taken before and it didnt mean by force.

    - Posted from rhpmobile
  • RHP1183146759465 Man 46yrs Shepparton

  • Mate....


    I’m more concerned with your mental health....your feelings of inadequacy are something that may be more important to tackle than seeing your partner fuck someone else...

    I believe that your desire to have her fuck other men is symptomatic to a much deeper issue....

    I can only hope you’re doing ok....

    - Posted from rhpmobile
  • RHP1183146506382 Man 55yrs Darwin

  • You lost me at ''convincing''...


    I would imagine your wife would have let you know by now if she was into being ''taken'' by another man by now. If she doesn't have any fantasies she doesn't have any fantasies. Reading the overall tone of your question, I am unsurprised you are unable to satisfy your wife sexually - she sounds very straightforward - as she has every right to be - and you are clearly interested in what could be described as kink.

    You and your wife sound sexually incompatible, it is up to you whether or not that is going to be a long-term problem. It certainly doesn't sound like it is a problem for her.
  • RHP1183145709184 Man 53yrs Melbourne

  • So...


    The smart-arse in me wants to say "Just ignore her and treat her badly for a few years and she'll probably start seeing somebody else..."

    I think you're confusing what she wants with what you want - because I really don't think you know what she wants. Maybe there's some kind of communication issue between you? Learn to listen - really listen - and actually hear what she's saying. Not what you think she's saying, not what you want her to say, but what she really means. It's a skill. Don't talk, don't tell her what she should want or what might be good for her. Ask a question and then just listen. It won't work instantly; it'll take a lot of practice because it sounds like she's learned to bury what she really wants. But with patience, love, and true listening, you might get to a point where you're both much more satisfied - and probably without involving anybody else (except a counsellor, should you choose to go that route - which might be a good idea).

    Live long and prosper!