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  • KenandBarbie Man 56yrs Cronulla


  • "breaking the ice" is difficult for some guys. the lazy "Do you want to meet up" is just Gronk cave man speaking.
    Its a challenge to read a profile and get a vibe of what might work to get a girls attention, but its not only guys that don't bother to give much away, 🤔🙄I've written so rather lengthy and in my opinion witty & fun🤪🤣😁😂😀 introductions to girls the have only guest memberships, which basically doesn't work at all if the guy doesn't message first, only to find they read it,🥱😒 but cant even be bothered replying🙁😖😞😕
  • RHP1183158403496 Man 43yrs Wolli Creek


  • Some do some don’t. Where do you’d set your standards?

    This app is built to promise men sex so they’ll act as per the marketing.

    Upside is you get lots of attention, downside is 95% of it is below standard. It’s sort of like looking for the right job.

    Keep standards high and eventually the right one will present as expected.
  • hotandready2 Couple Man 50yrs Woman 42yrs Melbourne


  • I hear you singlegirl3.you safety has to be number 1 priority ,it's a crazy world out there. Well done 👏
  • hotandready2 Couple Man 50yrs Woman 42yrs Melbourne


  • @Viccpl 🤣🤣🤣 chaps? Haven't heard that for a while sounds pommy 😊❤️
    But great read 📚
  • hotandready2 Couple Man 50yrs Woman 42yrs Melbourne


  • @Margo_Lover Point well made.
  • LivingLife007 Man 50yrs Brisbane


  • It is difficult being the dreaded single male on this forum. It’s a rat race as there is a such a massive disparity between males to females on here. I initially thought it may be an average of 10 to 1 or so. but talking to numerous single females and working out the maths on the amount of messages they get inundated with, especially on joining, I would say it would be way over a hundred to one. I think they some guys may just be eager to try get in before the rest of the pack, but they obviously doing themselves a massive disservice in doing so.
    The only advice I can give to my fellow single males on here is that respect, patience and courtesy go a long way in chatting to single females and couples. And even though I am a dreaded single male, I cannot complain as RHP has been really good to me as manners for go a long way.

    And as a single male there is the expectation to host which is cool but if there is a bit of distance involved then I always offer the option of travelling to them and looking at hiring a hotel/ motel if they cannot host. I have also found that some females and more so couples are more comfortable in hosting in their own homes. I suppose it just depends on the individual.
  • RHP1183148081152 Man 41yrs Rouse Hill


  • At this point id just be happy to get a polite response from my messages.
  • HornyAllThTime84 Man 40yrs New Beith


  • I offered to host in my hotel once but she wanted her bed so invited me over to her house. Had only found her a couple hours earlier on tinder. Walked in her door and we were straight into it. Blew my mind. Wish I was going back to that state soon.
  • HornyAllThTime84 Man 40yrs New Beith


  • @KenandBarbie It's just as frustrating to have them read it and then read your bio which would take longer than just replying with. "Sorry not interested"
  • RHP1183148167829 Man 62yrs Bassendean


  • I prefer to meet for a drink somewhere neutral and if all goes well usually ask if they prefer to go to theirs or mine whatever comfortable
  • LylasVW2023 Woman 54yrs Greenbushes


  • Or my favourite...
    "Hey! Wanna fuck?"
  • AussieKisser Man 47yrs Blaxland


  • @LylasVW2023 Wow, do guys actually send stuff like that 😂😂.
  • Coastguy Man 58yrs Nambucca Heads


  • Umm, nope! Communication is fun and should be the first priority.
    Men should host, If a woman has to travel, men should be at least fairly financially accountable. Public places when unsure.
  • TheTwoYouSeek Couple Man 54yrs Woman 51yrs Maitland


  • If a man can't host then it's a red flag. Either married or attached and is likely cheating. If you're single, surely you can either host or spring for a hotel.
  • RHP1183158421947 Man 50yrs Newcastle


  • Safety always comes first! Meeting in a mutual place or hotel is the best way to start.
  • RHP1183146894609 Man 42yrs Perth


  • I have had success with both of those lines. Everyone had a great time and nobody got hurt. If it's not for you then that's cool too, just say no. I always thought it was a bit loose for women to invite me straight up to their house without meeting me first though but it was also uncommon.
  • Save_a_horse Man 54yrs Maitland


  • Do men no longer have manners or common sense and ability to be charming?
  • EarthQueen Woman 55yrs Wollongong


  • I mean either could be a risk so you just try to suss people out the best you can using your intuition. Once you meet someone you can tell quickly if it's on or not. I probably feel safer at my place than someone else's.

    I think this is a place where you can explore fantasies. Sometimes people want to have sex with strangers. Both men and women. Probably not completely safe but some people think its worth the risk.
  • Gregidge635 Man 43yrs Lane Cove


  • Because there’s a fine line between a couple of messages to harassment and it changes from
    woman to woman
  • Kincraft Man 46yrs Huntingdale


  • I'd assume 'want to meet' as a first message works, at least part of the time. There are women who dislike collecting 'pen pals', which could be men who have reservations about meeting in person. And, most of us know that women get a lot of messages. We can get lost in the masses if a meeting isn't organised quickly.

    As for hosting... it's a tricky subject. When I left my marriage, I stayed with friends and family for a short while. Both kept houses that weren't suitable for guests.. or even living, really. And, I've been invited to other people's houses where they hadn't cleaned for years; cockroaches and worse roaming the place. The last one had a pitbull that broke free from its leash... and he wasn't satisfied with simply tearing my best jeans.

    So, some of us make an effort to be clean and presentable. To maintain a respectable house that's safe and comfortable. To have our profile accurately reflect who we are.

    It's unfortunate, but some people don't see a problem with using 10 year old photos. And, maybe think that, since you're at their house, you'll overlook the pockmarks on their arms, or don't mind that their dentures keep slipping out (and no.. she wasn't old).

    So, meet at a coffee shop or park first. Escape is easier if you're not in a place appropriate for intimacy. If things aren't working out, be polite but make your excuses. And, rather than simply ghosting, explain why you're not interested... maybe it'll help them; you can disappear if they argue.

    Now that I've got my own house, I prefer to host... mostly because I know my house is clean and safe. But it only stays that way if I'm careful about who I invite. In a similar way, I've chosen to only visit people who present well in person. Most often, you can tell the quality of a person by how they look after their belongings. If they've got the time and energy to keep their car tidy (as an example), then it's a fairly safe bet that the rest of their life is in order.

    I side with avoiding people that offer to meet at a house first. That type of recklessness doesn't align with what I'm looking for. Although, I should be respectful and say that other people may use a term other than 'reckless'.. excitement or thrill maybe. At the least, I don't assume that I'll want to fuck someone I'm about to meet. I hope we'll get along... but that hope isn't sufficient to warrant immediate access to a bed.