3 sum offered by couple...Good friends of mine...What to do?

Comments

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I have had a few threesomes with a few friends and remained friends with them after. But when it comes to sex, until RHP I had never 'planned' sex b4, and for me it tends to add pressure to a situation... So depending on the 3 of u and ur personalities I reckon there is 2 ways to go, if u guys r already touchy feely together and comfy, not nervous round eachother, then I say plan a normal nite out and if the chemistry is flowing then go with it, if one of the 3 of u is just not up for it, then all have the expectation that it was gonna at the very least be a fun casual night out, then reevaluate. So to me that is the natural way to go about it BUT the fact that u now all actually know the agenda of the night, then maybe u could gain some confidence by talking either in person, text, email or chat what is everyone's sexual likes and dislikes, what is their top moment that they want out of it and what would they be a no way to. So b4 the night the 3 of u at least all have an idea of what tickles each others hot spots! Depending on how comfy u guys are with talking about it, u could even go so far as to script it out, leave no room for akward confusion on who is supposed to be doing wot, or Some feeling left out etc? Have the couple had a 3some? Are they a serious couple or casual couple? Do u think that there is a possibility that one of them may have a hidden agenda and wants u for the taking? Or on the flipside neither have that agenda, but one maybe a little less into the idea and could project that feeling into jealousy? These are handy things to talk about to keep things crystal clear! It maybe overkill what I wrote, especially as all my encounters were better than I could have hoped for, but like I said it wasn't a plan, it just flowed naturally (with the flow of tequila a couple times, dangerous liquor that! U should definitely do tequila shots! *Shudder*

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Allways never do it with freinds you allready have because it can lead to to many problems, like if the guy pays to much attention to you the girl might get pissed of with you or him. I know it sounds great to just jump in and go for it think about the things that can go wrong,it's really not worth the chances of loosing good freinds over a threesome. I think the best way is to have a threesome with poeple you dont know then there is no chance of wrecking a freindship trust me hunn it's not worth it im sure you could find countless poeple on here to have a threesome with. I believe the best threesome freinds are the ones you start of with as threesome freinds then there is no freindships to dammage like there would be with freinds,,,, just think about it is all im saying cns xxxxx

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  the biggest peice of advice I can give you for this (as someone who has been a third for friends) is make sure there are bedroom 'rules' and friendship 'rules'. For me it worked best if everyone was clear that what happened in the bedroom was not the only part of our friendship...this was just an added aspect and when/if you decide to stop playig with them then your friendship should not suffer....keep doing the usual friend things you do together but dont allow the bedroom familiarity to intrude on that... . Kisses Focus

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Right from the start, we set the rule - No playing with friends. Since then we have discovered friends that have been interested, and we've even had blatant conversations about it; but we've withheld regardless.Making friends along the way though, is half the fun!It all depends on the dynamic though, and the way I see it, i that if you're questioning if it will change that friendship dynamic, then it probably will. If you're not 200% confident that it won't be an issue, then back out, and explain why. Some people tend to think that because they choose to swing they can do anyone they like, and that is definitely not the case - it's an individual basis.Good luck!

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  before taking that step with friends. while it seems ideal (ie you's know each other already, find each other attractive etc) the aftermath can be deadly. what happens if the threesome is a flop (this happens! lol) or rather one of them falls in love with you, or wants to see you on the sly. this also happens and relationships (and friendships) can break up over it. that said one of the hottest threesomes of my life happened with friends and we are still great mates with no arkwardness. but as unsexy as it sounds talk about it beforehand and agree on rules what can/cant happen. and enjoy it! once you've been to the dark side with a woman you wont want to go back : P xx

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Most of mine were with friends... only got 'funny afterwards' once.My fault though.

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Hi guys I had a threesome with a couple some years back I answered an ad on a notice board in a sex shop (thats why it was there) got a call 7.30pm on a Sunday night asked if I was still interested I said yes they gave me address I rock up 15 mins latter sat and had a chat for 5 mins she dropped dress ask me to follow her to the bedroom we got the rest of our gear off,the guy just wanted to watch me fuck his lady after I finish he fucked her that was it,all over in an half an hour,that not a threesome in my book.I like to give the lady a nice long lick,a poke and a shag and lick up the mess a couple of hours work at least not the best threesome,but I did not know them. LOL Paulxxx

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Always wet, this is a hard one but some good advice already dished out!We have had a number of experiences with VERY close friends that just happened with no planning and they are still just as close friends but I dare say it could easily go pear shaped if one party wasn't up for it. Oh also if it's to be a one off or irregular thing then it is likely that one of the 3 might want repeat performances more than the rest and this can make the friendship awkward.Personally if they were friends I couldn't live without I would never pre plan such a thing, my experiences were actually with friends of this type and I'm so thankful it worked out. If they are not that close then I'd probably go for it and at worst you'll grow apart and at best it'll turn them into the kind of friends you can't live withoutGood luck

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Haven't done it with friends more than once and it blew up in everyone's face then... every other time it's been with "fuck buddies" i.e. someone "regular" from a site like this, and all those times it's been GREAT. So I'd agree with many of the above, unless you're 100% sure a 3some with your friends won't affect your relationship, don't do it. And if you DO end up doing it, remember to focus 100% on HER, not him... men will be thrilled just to be involved (lol, sorry guys, not meant in a bad way :D ), but you need to charm and seduce HER... has worked for me every time (except that one :) Also, since being with a woman seems to be high on your wish list, only natural to want to make her your priority... yum... definitely recommend the 3some, so if not them, find a couple otherwise. Good luck, AW123

  reply

  like