M36
Asking your partner about swinging?
March 10 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
your laughing as there is some dialogue. Otherwise it's a minefield. Just bring it up, it's not unusual in relationships and really a little rock when you think about it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm assuming that your wanting advice on how you should go about asking your partner .... So how are things currently with your partner? Does she know your on RHP and sleeping with other women. Do you have an open relationship, don't ask don't tell ...... How things are very much dictates how you go about asking. common thread here is a swinging relationship requires a huge amount of open and honest communication between you and your partner and is probably up there in the most important aspects. You need to be able to articulate what is is you would like to try but also be able to engage with your partner if it is something they would like to try. It has been said a number of times but if you discuss but the other half doesn't want to do it then putitng them in a position of being forced to do it is not going to end well for the relationship. For me personally it took honest and open discussion over a number of years to build up that trust and respect to be even position where my partners comfort levels and interest were high enough for exploring this together. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
just do it..... No bullshit, own your motivation for wanting to, and just speak openly and frankly..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
You don't ask about swinging per se. You ask about fantasies. It just happens that the swinging scene is one way of accomplishing them, depending on what they are. Assuming you find out what they are, then you have to find out if your partner has entertained the thought of actually going through with them.
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CompersionCouple
10 years ago
For me it was about feeling safe, secure & confident in our relationship. I know 100% that my man has always only ever got my best interest in his mind. He has really made sure that every experience has been exciting & unforgettable so that I want more. I've been swinging for 3 years now with him & I wouldn't have life any other way. I often get asked about this by other women we play with & they often comment that they wished they had started at a younger age but the timing wasn't rite in there life. Communication, honesty, trust & respect are always the keys to any successful relationship. These things are very important when u decide to get into this lifestyle. We had been watching porn 1 night & my man just asked me if I wanted to try some of the things we watched. I've always been open minded so I said why not & as they say "the rest is history". - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Depends on how she is going with her single profile. She's probably having a such a good time as a unicorn that she may not want you to be an anchor in her lifestyle..........
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RHP User
10 years ago
the first mention of it is usually about fantasies and not to repeat anything already said here, if she's receptive at all or shows any interest in maybe trying something she has fantasised about, then talk of how that can be made possible etc. I would give one piece of advice though, don't be too concerned about your fantasies to begin with. If she is receptive to the idea of acting out even one of her fantasies, make it about her, and yourself in the moment of course, if it's a threesome, but put your other desires away for a bit, let her ease in. If she's flat out against it, don't judge her, you're only young, guessing she is too? But if you're not married, then you'd need to look at whether you want to continue in a relationship where you're not on the same page sexually. Ask her if she might want to have sex with another guy/girl, without you there, tell her that would turn you on, with the promise of licking her out when she gets home mmm sorry, horny again here, but she might surprise you. There are a lot of people, men and women who would venture outside their marriage if they didn't think it would destroy the marriage and they aren't game to mention it. Who knows
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RHP User
10 years ago
the word 'swinger' can scare people off, muggles quite often giggle into their hands at the mere mention of it, I used to, embarrassed to say now keep in mind it's not all about group sex or couples with other couples, which swinging suggests or is commonly associated with. There are many other ways of enjoying free sexuality in one on one situations. All the kinks, bondage, hot wifing (this one turns me on, but then so do a lot of other things). It could be as simple as her going to have sex with another guy, you making dinner, the two of you sitting down for a romantic dinner, over which she tells you in detail about her encounter, you both get horny and it's on again or roleplay, forget dinner, call her a dirty slut and throw her up against the wall haha shit I am horny Point is, it doesn't have to be full on into everything, though it does seem to move pretty quickly once it starts
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
Ok so your profile states that you are a sexual animal and can't get enough, and that generally you only practise safe sex when required ??? And you are on here looking for action ... Does your partner know about this ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wheres the nature is of skin deep - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'DynamicCouple36' Ok so your profile states that you are a sexual animal and can't get enough, and that generally you only practise safe sex when required ??? And you are on here looking for action ... Does your partner know about this ? Wow all the op said was.... "I'm just curious in how you and your partner got into swinging? Like how did you ask your partner to give it a try? ".......maybe you need to re-read the post, or is this you hating single men again?....cause your response had zero to do with the question which was a pretty straight forward one.
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LifeUnscripted
10 years ago
But the fantasies question is the way to go. Sharing fantasies, watching porn with multiple people in the scene, there are lots of ways to bring it up. Once you know that she is at least fantasizing about it you can ask more concrete questions. For us it was Mrs LU fantasizing about women. She was curious, so then we started fantasizing about her being with a woman. The conversations went from there. - Posted from rhpmobile
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SexyDeviants
10 years ago
The rest is history!
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