Boundaries with vanilla friends

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Don't tell her anything. Why should you. Make a light joke out of it or start asking her personal questions in return. Seriously who does that out of the blue?

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  DO NOT GO THERE.. I have a VERY dear friend.. male, who I have worked with for over 4 years.. love the guy to death.. BUT.....   HE WILL talk.. I tell everyone I am on RHP.. and openly tell them I will fck their wives, mothers, sisters, g/fs AND friends if they are up for it...   BUT, from a personal aspect?? I AM EXTREMELY guarded in what I actually tell that friend... HEY, I don't judge him for saying stuff... it is him.. he is a beautiful clown.. and that is his thing... So, I don't talk.. period.. No.. I lie.. there are things I WANT to get back to ppl on work sites.. I TELL him that.. :)   F2P.. Please take it from me.. DO NOT tell her squat.. even IF you think she might be up to play too.. If she is a gossip.. she WILL talk :(   Mind you.. it MAYBE that they re on here.. OR she is.. "Alone" and KNOWS you are here *grins*   Opens a whole knew understanding on here.. BUT does not change the fact that she is a gossip..   I did a lot of stuff with one of my ex's cousin (YES.. while we were together.. I cheated.. AGAIN) Then.. the bitch cousin went and TOLD my girlfriend.. OF course she NEVER told G/F WE had done stuff.. she just told on me.. about SOME of the other stuff I had done other women.. SHE had the fckn audacity to tell about a threesome I had with a mate and another girl(unknown) _fckn unknown alright.. it WAS the fckn cousin we had nailed... I simply told g/f to get cousin over.. and we would sort it out.. I told her "Yep.. dave and myself did that shit.. WITH YOUR FCKN COUSIN" I had actually asked g/f if I could bring Dave over one weekend prir to all this happening.. But, that is a different story   Point remains lad.. DO NOT TELL HER!!!!

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  DO NOT GO THERE.. I have a VERY dear friend.. male, who I have worked with for over 4 years.. love the guy to death.. BUT.....   HE WILL talk.. I tell everyone I am on RHP.. and openly tell them I will fck their wives, mothers, sisters, g/fs AND friends if they are up for it...   BUT, from a personal aspect?? I AM EXTREMELY guarded in what I actually tell that friend... HEY, I don't judge him for saying stuff... it is him.. he is a beautiful clown.. and that is his thing... So, I don't talk.. period.. No.. I lie.. there are things I WANT to get back to ppl on work sites.. I TELL him that.. :)   F2P.. Please take it from me.. DO NOT tell her squat.. even IF you think she might be up to play too.. If she is a gossip.. she WILL talk :(   Mind you.. it MAYBE that they re on here.. OR she is.. "Alone" and KNOWS you are here *grins*   Opens a whole knew understanding on here.. BUT does not change the fact that she is a gossip..   I did a lot of stuff with one of my ex's cousin (YES.. while we were together.. I cheated.. AGAIN) Then.. the bitch cousin went and TOLD my girlfriend.. OF course she NEVER told G/F WE had done stuff.. she just told on me.. about SOME of the other stuff I had done other women.. SHE had the fckn audacity to tell about a threesome I had with a mate and another girl(unknown) _fckn unknown alright.. it WAS the fckn cousin we had nailed... I simply told g/f to get cousin over.. and we would sort it out.. I told her "Yep.. dave and myself did that shit.. WITH YOUR FCKN COUSIN" I had actually asked g/f if I could bring Dave over one weekend prir to all this happening.. But, that is a different story   Point remains lad.. DO NOT TELL HER!!!!

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Ha Ha.. OP.. See F2P.. even the GODS thought what I had to say wwas extremely important to you.. they decided to make my post DOUBLE up..   Just so you would take heed lad.. take heed!!!   DO NOT TAKE HEAD!!! HEED.. HEED

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Say you're not quite comfortable answering questions about sex/your sex life? Or give it back to them and ask why they want to know. Do they maybe have issues they want advice on? An inkling is not enough to blackmail anyone, and should they try you can just respond with "No comment". Is there anything they could blackmail you with? You don't show your face pics on here and I assume these people don't know you're on here anyway. Have they seen anything suspicious in your house? Tell them you don't know what they're talking about. They don't sound like people I'd want to talk to at all, frankly.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  not be available for coffee,dinner,parties any kind of socializing quite frankly.This person IS NOT YOUR FRIEND,actually they are the opposite of friend.They do not wish you well. You don't have to make an issue of it but just quietly make yourselves scarce....as to the blackmail.....phttttt.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  It always comes down to that...clearly they are on outer circles...they are not Friends. As my daughter calls people like that "Friend-enemins, They pretend to be your friend but really they are enemies..FRIEND-ENEMIES" Foxy

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  ...it's none of their Business ! What I do , in my Private Life , isn't any business of anyone outside of that circle . If they persist ? Tell 'em to get Fucked ! With Friends like these , Who needs Enemas ? GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Thank you so much for your considered opinions .. it's also nice to know that I (we) are not alone in having experienced this. Often find that it is people that are missing a lot in their lives are persistent in living vicariously through others :) Love that we got some lovely responses from the people on the forums who always make the most sense :)Love and blessings to all x

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  sounds like shes jealous, envious that youre doing fun stuff shes not, so shes gong to try and spoil your fun by starting rumours and small talk hoping your mutual friends will think badly of you. You know what? Theyd probably all be insanly curious....

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Real friends aren't like that. Real friends respect your privacy. Personally I tell her to butt out and give her the flick.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Sounds like they are fishing for information. Look, a secret is only a secret if one person knows it. There is always someone in the office or family or group that is a gossip. Once told to that person, everyone will know about it faster than the speed of light. The advice to not tell them a thing is valid and should be heeded. I really don't know the situation between you and that person, but you should really be careful about what you say to them or even to common friends both of you have. Have a read of some enemies that act as your friends:1. the taker - by only taking, asking for a lot while giving little, performing duty out of fear, and offering service in order to gain something.2. the talker - by reminding of past generosity, promising future generosity, mouthing empty words of kindness, and protesting personal misfortune when called on to help.3. the flatterer - by supporting both bad and good behavior indiscriminately, praising you to your face, and putting you down behind your back.If you think that person/couple fits any of the things I mentioned above, then be very careful and keep your interaction to a minimum. Simply put, do not trust them.

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