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Falling in love with two people...
December 21 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well the simple solution would be to invite Hp in help you all manage your feelings and needs... ;) But seriously, talkie time... is your fiancé aware of whats going on ?Does she know how you are feeling towards her ?It doesn't sound like this is really the right time to be getting married...Communication is your friend... Hp xobecause you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi Jano,.the sentence in your post that stands out the most for me is "I'd rather get old and regret the things I've done than regret the things I didn't do and wish I had!".It tells me you're not ready to settle down, no matter how wonderful your fiancé is. Does he have any idea you feel this way? And does he know about your girlfriend? You're effectively cheating on him, which (imho) will eventually hurt both of you..I think the best thing to do is fess up to him about how you feel. He might be more understanding than you think. Don't wait until after you walk down that isle!.x
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RHP User
12 years ago
Was in similar situation when i was in my 20's fell madly in love with young french Boyz , both so different but yet so similar ... and i couldnt decided with who i should go with, in love we both men equally and they knew each other even talked to each other how to sort this dilemma ..but in the end , i had to leave both of them coz it wasnt rite, what i was doin...in your heart of heart you know know the answer.x
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'd learn a little about polyamory and have an open and honest chat with both of them :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
So..... ahhhh .... Miss Jano.... where's the ring?! ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
don't get married....yet....and of course you can be in love with two people but it requires at least two conversations....relationships don't have to be about one man one woman but you all need to be clear about what it might look like...and good luck xR
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RHP User
12 years ago
You have a fiance, a girlfriend, and you're on here looking for women. And from what I can see of your pics, you are gorgeous! Oh how I wish I had your problems!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well...Jano u are enjoying the cake u baked, and I bet it tastes yummmy. But if u want to bake a great cake, look at how the finer details of each ingredients combine......or.....just keep fucking both there brains out until it turns to shit....xknots
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RHP User
12 years ago
What exactly is the issue?? I honestly don't see one. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
12 years ago
(Worried look but smiling) Jano you know what you're doung and Kalifornian is right you know in your heart what to do. My gut tells me (although you shy from the label lesbian and liking your gf doesn't make you one I might add) your feelings are stronger for the girlfriend presently AND you are feeling guilty about this because of your boyfriend. Correct me if I'm wrong. Ultimately, looooooong engagements are good.....I'm recently seperated, don't rush down the aisle out of a sense of "doing the right thing" please and HP (humour aside) hit the nail on the head. Your fiance' is either going to rant and rave because he feels threatened, want to join you two girls, call it quits and out you OR be a fair person and work alongside you to understand BOTH (yours and his) sexuality. Could bring you closer together, could tear you apart. Euther way I see your girlfriend possible getting hurt the most as she's the 3rd wheel. Where, how, who and what happens next is entirely up to you, go with your gut but be fair to yourself as well. I know that's no help but one of the few things in life we can call our own IS our mistakes. You haven't made one yet.......communicate or postpone the wedding. Just my 2 x Bob's worth ~ Indy
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RHP User
12 years ago
..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are you happily attached now? Any regrets not chosing one? One if them might have been your perfect soul mate? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
12 years ago
As a number of alluded to already, conversation is what is needed now, between BOTH your fiancé and girlfriend. You must find out how they both feel about your desires as they stand at present. You have time on your side at present - you don't have to worry about marriage 'today'. If you find that both parties can understand your attraction to each other, then it may not have to stop eventually. But you also have to examine your own motives, and then try to look down the track in 10 or 20 years time - do you think you will still want to be attached to one or the other at that time, or is it just a temporary 'fantasy' ? I take it that on your profile, because you are only advertising for connections with other women, that you are possibly worried about your fiancé's reaction to you being caught out with another person ? If so, then you may have to have a harder look at your relationship anyway. Tall
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RHP User
12 years ago
Unless your fiance doesn't know about your girlfriend, I don't see why you can't have a loving relationship with both of them. If you haven't already, talk to them both and explain your feelings. You could have a beautiful poly relationship there.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority' Well the simple solution would be to invite Hp in help you all manage your feelings and needs... ;) But seriously, talkie time... is your fiancé aware of whats going on ?Does she know how you are feeling towards her ?It doesn't sound like this is really the right time to be getting married...Communication is your friend... Hp xobecause you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
hey there at the end of the day a few people here hit the nail on the head the guy needs to know your gonna marry him and all of this is gonna mess you both up at some stage better now than later. as someone said he may like the fact some guys do personal i dont ,,, but hey you have to tell him as the hole will only get deeper
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm not sure you know the meaning of those words?
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