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First time party

November 30 2012

Hi all, Just wanted people's thoughts on attending a swingers/sex party for the first time as a single male. I was recently invited to a party and decided to accept, which I have done but the nerves are killing me already haha. I guess part of me is so nervous because I have always been self conscious about my weight - not because I'm overweight but more because I'm underweight. As a guy it's generally more acceptable to have a bit of a paunch than to be that skinny guy. I have been in a MMF threesome before (both straight guys). I'm pretty open-minded even though I'm straight but this is taking it to a whole new level for me after being with partners (although lovely) were strictly vanilla as they say. What can I expect as a single guy at one of these events? I'm not expecting sex at all I'm just going there with an open mind and to get my eyes opened a bit. I understand the rules a little ie. no means no, protection at all times. But other than that haven't the foggiest.

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RHP User

13 years ago

Respect and enjoy yourself.

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RHP User

13 years ago

Make sure you have fun. You get all types/builds/ages of people showing up at swingers. If its at a club the hosts will usually show you around through the venue, there are usually showers for after play. If your gunna drink, don't get wasted! Talk to people, most will be open and honest. And i've always found them to be rather friendly and chatty. Enjoy the experience.

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RHP User

13 years ago

Well first of all...pack your manners, be polite and respectful - no means no - end of story If there is group action going down - dont just join in - ask if you can and accept their decision accordingly... Second, dont gawk....sure - watch but like be a little discreet in doing so Do not expect any action whatsoever ...and therefore it will a be a lovely surprise if it does happen - some women take the initiative and if you play your cards rite well who knows ??.... Chat, circulate, be friendly but also try to relax - remember we have all been first timers (yep we have) Dont drug ever or drink too much - enough said Im assuming its a private party so please make sure you thank your hosts..they have opened their house up to a total stranger so be mindful of that - without private parties in Perth - the scene would be almost dead - thanks to my good friend Shez and Pommie who constantly throw excellent parties - its not ..... (yeah you just got tagged Shez) ..:) Hey dont worry about how you look - us girls arent as judgemental or visually driven as you blokes..a nice smile, lovely chat and a winning personality goes down as more of a treat - every chick in the world has body issues...we know your angst ok ....dont be sleazy..(Im sure your not)....nothing puts the ladies off more... Dont even question the safe sex policy - enough said on that one too Um ..thats all that comes to my mind.... Message me privately if you have more specific questions - happy to answer - weather is better today in Perth (its actually sunny ) - so hopefully a warmer nite for getting ones clothes off !!! But the most important tip..relax (its just like a normal party - just some people get to second, third, fourth base and also hit homes runners - sorry Im a Yank - baseball euphenism.) , be yourself, enjoy...and your first time will hopefully turn into many times :) Cheers xx Thank you RHP for my instant post priviledges back :)

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RHP User

13 years ago

Great advice, nothing more needs to be said. I can understand the nerves, I was shitting myself when I decided to attend my first party. Believe me there is nothing to it. In the end, I couldn't understand what I was so nerveous about. The people who attend parties are really nice and if they know that you are a first timer, they go out of their way to make you feel welcome. Some of them will mke sure you bet some action. Good luck and all the best.

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RHP User

13 years ago

quote monty python "You lucky barstard", have fun and I don't think you should have any problems if you just RELAX.... Mike

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RHP User

13 years ago

Thanks everyone for their replies! Seems maybe I was worrying over nothing lol. I can't drink atm so that part of its easy enough and I'm always respectful of people anyway so that's covered. I guess I just wasn't sure of the etiquette. Haha life of Brian my all time favourite movie - in fact I was going to have username of biggusdickus but didn't want to get accused of false advertising haha.

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RHP User

13 years ago

How was the party? Just wanted to say if you haven't already gone. Don't put any pressure on yourself to play. It's quite acceptable to just watch if that is all you feel like doing. I think people put too much pressure on themselves and think that they have to bonk everyone and then performance anxiety sets in. And you don't want that. I think that people dream and fantasizes about threesomes, foursomes and moresomes, going to parties and sex clubs but the reality can be very confronting, scary, not what you expected or just simply overwhelming. And that is all okay. People are very nice and will make newbies feel welcome. Hope you have fun.

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RHP User

13 years ago

Come on, we are all waiting for details here lol xFunlovingx

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RHP User

13 years ago

Haha it's this Friday, will keep you posted :)

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