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Hard to be polite
November 03 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
Gah! Forum ate half my post! The first three messages are: received read hi Sep 24 2010 - his original message - received read hi Oct 22 2010 - his identical message - sent read Re: hi Nov 03 2010 - my message saying thanks but i'm not meeting anyone new right now -
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RHP User
15 years ago
I've said for a long time men are their own worst enemy with women. You're right, it's not at all difficult to be polite and takes no additional time than being an arse. I don't think I've found any rejection reply offensive yet and always thank woman for a reply be it a "lets get it on" or "your head makes me want to vomit" and I remember recently one particularly sexy woman even decided after my thank you that we should stay in contact and we have. Manners are attractive to women, use them!
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RHP User
15 years ago
the first two messages were from the man in question - identical messages. involving his passion for football, as it happens. the third message was my polite "thanks for your message, but i'm not meeting anyone new right now" response. and yes Rugged, although i don't quite remember sending you "your head makes me want to vomit", it was a real pleasure staying in touch!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think any honest person would say they dont like rejection in any form..We all get it ,some of us take it with class, some dont.
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RHP User
15 years ago
As recently as Last Night In Chat...A Man said Hi to me..." Love Your Profile Wanna Meet for Fun"I said to this Man Im sorry but you should of gone past the pictures and read that I am Only Here to chat and if i do meet someone its a social Meet only NO SEX!He then proceeded to abuse me in various ways....and Saying my Profile Was False Advertising .That this just here to Chat was Bullshit and i should take my profile down and not be here at all.I blocked this Man...Whom then went on to make a total Arse of himself by Going on and On and On about how i should not be here.. in chat to anyone whom would listen. Several other people also blocked him due to his behaviour.This kind of behaviour to me shows that they are indeed NOT Now... NOT Ever ....the kind of person i would meet.Some seem to leave all Respect and Manners for others at the Login window....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Nudierudie2' As recently as Last Night In Chat...A Man said Hi to me..." Love Your Profile Wanna Meet for Fun"I said to this Man Im sorry but you should of gone past the pictures and read that I am Only Here to chat and if i do meet someone its a social Meet only NO SEX!He then proceeded to abuse me in various ways....and Saying my Profile Was False Advertising .That this just here to Chat was Bullshit and i should take my profile down and not be here at all.I blocked this Man...Whom then went on to make a total Arse of himself by Going on and On and On about how i should not be here.. in chat to anyone whom would listen. Several other people also blocked him due to his behaviour.This kind of behaviour to me shows that they are indeed NOT Now... NOT Ever ....the kind of person i would meet.Some seem to leave all Respect and Manners for others at the Login window....Thats just fuked up! Hope u gave him what for! Its the disrespect of that type of man! That is often on here! my opinion is tell him what u think! lol he not going to enjoy any decent woman from here! He will only attract the undisireables just like himself!
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RHP User
15 years ago
sound like to me too many people bother communicating with Fuckheads... time wasted that could be doing better things
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ms Valkyrie.. As a single guy on here i can tell you it frustrates no end when you send a message and get no answer!! Ok, some of you fine ladies do get inundated, but why not set up a template reply, something like "thanks but your not what i am looking for"... Very quick and easy to reply, and at least the guy knows that his message has been read, and that person is not interested. I agree a message with the word" Hi"..is a bit silly, but even if we try and out some thought into it, sometimes we dont get a response!! To all you ladies out there..a simple template reply will do, but for gods sake aknowledge the email....!! Having said that, it is totally wrong and rude to abuse someone who rejects you, shows a lot of immaturity...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'jensta' Quoting 'Nudierudie2' As recently as Last Night In Chat...A Man said Hi to me..." Love Your Profile Wanna Meet for Fun"I said to this Man Im sorry but you should of gone past the pictures and read that I am Only Here to chat and if i do meet someone its a social Meet only NO SEX!He then proceeded to abuse me in various ways....and Saying my Profile Was False Advertising .That this just here to Chat was Bullshit and i should take my profile down and not be here at all.I blocked this Man...Whom then went on to make a total Arse of himself by Going on and On and On about how i should not be here.. in chat to anyone whom would listen. Several other people also blocked him due to his behaviour.This kind of behaviour to me shows that they are indeed NOT Now... NOT Ever ....the kind of person i would meet.Some seem to leave all Respect and Manners for others at the Login window....Thats just fuked up! Hope u gave him what for! Its the disrespect of that type of man! That is often on here! my opinion is tell him what u think! lol he not going to enjoy any decent woman from here! He will only attract the undisireables just like himself! I dont think it fair or very sporting of me to have a battle of wits with an Unarmed Opponent...and think i said somthing along the lines of " His gene pool could use a little chlorine" Before i blocked himSeveral of my chat freinds Rode up on their White Steeds and gave him a bit of pixel bashing on my behalf..( Thankyou you know who you are) I think some people need to remeber that a rejection is nothing more than someone else's personal preferance or choiceNot a Personal Attack...My favourite saying is that We Dont See Things AS THEY ARE....We See Things AS WE ARE Life's a bitch, 'Cause if it was a slut, it'd be easy
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Letsgetcrazy09
15 years ago
Whether to respond or not. Surely it is up to the person receiving the mail in the first place. If they are not interested, sure it would be nice to receive a reply, if not, move on and soak in the sunshine. Certainly if you send a second piece of mail and it doesn't get responded to then surely the message couldn't be plainer. Would it be better that an auto reply was set up - something along the lines of "Thanks for your message. I get quite a few and will respond to it **if I think *we can develop this further *you appear to be someone I could like to get to know better **if i want toCertainly some that I message here have auto messages to save some time. I didn't take offence when I initially received it and did get a follow up at a later point in time.To take another analogy, if you were walking down the street and wolf whistled - if you liked them you would give a smile, if not probably look straight ahead and keep moving. If you send a message and don't get a reply, perhaps they have looked at your profile and aren't interested. Perhaps you have been in chat and they don't find you interesting. Yes it would be nice to get a reply, if you don't, it is not the end of the world. The sun will rise and the sun will fall.JMOLets
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Letsgetcrazy09
15 years ago
Yes I did get a bit off the track of the OP didn't I.In answer to the OP.........Yes, take it like a gentleman. Whining will get you nowhere.And as for the content...........where in the hell do people get some of these ideas when barely a word has been spoken........As Ned is quoted as saying "Such is Life"Chins up, Winner are grinners!!!!!!!!Lets
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RHP User
15 years ago
Us woman get Inandated with mail! I am a Mum & I work & have a great Life! So when I read my Mail when I get msgs That are Decent I reply! but when I get R u horny? or U want to blo me or Lets fuck! U gotta think, why waste my time on someone that really wants a free hooker! In the past I did reply to these undisirables but I would get angry so its best for me to leave it alone! xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I don't take offence to someone replying in the negative. It's certainly better than not hearing anything back at all. In addition I always reply to that message as a courtesy and wish the person luck. I'm seeking something specific anyway so I don't expect to 'get lucky' every time....it would be nice to ONE time tho ! lol I agree that you shuld reply to all messages, I can imagine some of the girls here get many, many messages but it's common courtesy that if themessage is genuine, not tacky or gross, that if someone has taken the time to get in touch a reply is the decent thing to do. Yes, perhaps a template reply saying "you are not what I am looking for but thanks for your message and good luck" is the way to go. Anyone who gets abusive should be reported. Its the only way to stop that rubbish. So, guys need to lift their game and not send out obviously templated messages to as many girls as they can (the shotgun approach) and girls should lift their game and attempt to reply and keep it nice for everyone. I think most guys get aggro because they either get a negative reply or no reply at all....well, suck it up if you get a negative reply, at least you got a repy ! I check My sent messages and about 70% of them don't even get read ! lol (Having to come to terms with the fact that despite what I look like and feel like....I'm an old fucker these days !) lol Of course fellas, the key is to write a really good, thoughtful and sexy profile, add some tasteful but sexy pics and get the girls to come to you !! *wink* A good profile and a tasteful, thought provoking message has a much better chance of getting through the dross that so many girls receive in their inbox. Dogism.
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RHP User
15 years ago
oh I wanna join in on this whine because a few days ago I got this message him: Hi Hey how u going? Mick here I'm 32 about 5'10 have short black hair brown eyes a solid build & a tanned complexion. I was on line browsing, thinking to myself look at all these poor, lonely & desperate women, then I came across your profile & thought to myself, here is a poor, lonely & desperate women that actually sounds interesting so I thought I'd drop u a hello & see if you are as interesting as you sound ;) so I replied: You lost me at calling me lonely and desperate he replied: lol, sorry if my msg offended you, wasn't my intention just wanted to see if you would bite, which you did & to see if you had a sense of humor? Guess not.....uhmmmm wtf I made him laugh but yet I have no sense of humour
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RHP User
15 years ago
to be honest, I don't expect women to respond if they're not interested. It's nice when they do, but water off a duck's back if they don't. It means they're not interested, and they get silly amounts of emails anyway. Move on. RHP isn't meant to be a full time occupation. I've got too much else going on in the world to even keep score, and I'm of the opinion that it's the best women who do respond anyway... and history has proven me right! Yee ha.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I wanted to share my amusement in some of the pics put up to entice or attract a playmate. When I see a toilet in the background of a gorgeous half naked masculine torso, I chuckle slightly that perhaps the person posting the photo may not realise that a toilet is pretty much a turn off.And the messy bedroom or piles of rubbish in the background doesn't present the cleanest image of a potential playmate......The law of attraction - "If you advertise rubbish, you may attract rubbish" heheHandy hint for those reading my lil trivial amusement xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I take pride in having manners when I approach a woman on this site or any other or indeed in any social setting. So when I get knocked back I always send a reply thanking the person in question for taking the time to reply. That in itself has yielded a few friendships. But I must say that it is irritating when you don't get a response to well written message as the thought process has involved "reading" the Lady's profile rather than the standard male thought process of "OH nice Tits, I'll contact her" However getting knocked back or no reply at all has never given me the inclination to abuse someone for their choice. But there are douchebags that walk amongst us....both genders. Catch you all later.
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RHP User
15 years ago
would it be a plan to say that you can't or will not meet up for some reason, just to gauge a reaction to see what sort of person you are dealing with, if the reaction is ok eg "no worries, take care" you could change your mind to yeah lets meet up.just a theory, not even a fan of it myself as it increases the whole bullshit levels but how(especially if you're a girl) can you get a reasonable grip on someone over computer messages??
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RHP User
15 years ago
No, I actually manage to respond to all messages. It may not be the response that the person sending the message is looking for and I do try to politely phrase the term "fuck off you dick head" I have only had one negative come back and I tend to just ignore those anyway. They get the hint and stop bugging me or I use the "block" function.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I've got an auto message that asks "Did you REALLY read my profile because if not, don't expect a reply if you don't fit what I'm looking for". Would be nice if you could do something similar with flirts as well. I don't reply to all flirts as the replies available are pathetic. I said no thank you to a couple guys and got abused. You can't win ... you're polite and you either get abused or continually badgered to "reconsider". I try to be polite but when their reply to my message is abusive they automatically are blocked. I'm amazed at just how many rude a**holes are out there... men and women. Sweet
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RHP User
15 years ago
I like this site as much as the next person on here and have had some great times. However I get concerned about how the Internet can give an individual a sense of anonymity that means offensive and abusive behavior that is not accepted in everyday life is suddenly ok online. People forget that there are people sitting at the computer you are sending that message to and that feelings can still be hurt. A friend of mine showed me a message from a guy who had messages her. She had replied with a polite 'not interested' response and his reaction was complete offense and abuse. There is never an excuse for that behaviour in any aspect of life. That said, after I saw the volume of mail in her inbox and the number of 'hey there' and 'hi' subject lines, I have more sympathy with the struggle to reply. It is always nice but hey, no offense taken if you don't get round to it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey people, just signed up. This is so easy, but I guess some people just don't get it. A little rejection now and then is your best friend. I wouldn't consider myself a 'polite' kind of guy, but I do know when something is just not happening for me and it's time to walk away. As for the other way round, what I say either intrigues someone and gets their attention, or it doesn't. If it doesn't, then they're probably not the sort of woman I want to talk to anyway. So they just saved me a truckload of time! C'mon people, instead of abusing people for whatever imaginary reason you made up, how about saying hey, thanks for not wasting my time!
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