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  MrandMrsEyes

  yesterday

  As a couple we find it hard to find other couples finding 4 people that are all attracted all jell is not an easy thing a lot of couples we talk to is just one partner doing the talking the whole time and when or if the other partner dose start or is introduced into the conversation it always seems to drop off or stop and we totally get it you have to have some form of attraction to enjoy these things . I think time plays a huge factor in killing conversation to not being able to meet people strait away or when the conversation is at its best whether due to work/family/distance or other commitments i think some people get inpatient or think your not trying to get thear but realy the day to day comes before play .

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  Nightglider

  yesterday

  I can’t help feeling this also feeds into your recent alignment post. The longer I’m in the lifestyle, the higher the bar becomes. I’ve experienced what an incredible connection feels like, so now every new connection feels a bit like a gamble. It’s much harder to find someone where all the important pieces align. I still have fun and enjoy meeting people, but these days it’s about so much more than physical attraction. Conversation, emotional maturity, authenticity, humour, reliability, sexual chemistry, and feeling relaxed around someone all matter. When those things align, the connection has the potential to continue. When they don’t, the spark naturally fades. Perhaps it’s more about having more clarity on what works than just trying to chase a spark.

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  Nightglider

  yesterday

  I also have found that instant sexual chemistry can sometimes cloud my judgement. I’ve learnt that when the attraction is intense, I’m more likely to overlook red flags or incompatibilities that I’d normally notice. That’s ok for me if it’s a ONS or brief connection at a party or venue, but because I prefer ongoing connections, I’ve learnt the value of slowing down occasionally and letting the rest of the connection catch up before deciding whether there’s alignment.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  yesterday

  The biggest killer is when the red flags start generating enough electricity to power the spark themselves. Fireworks don't light up by themselves. Ms Foxy

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  Pocketrocket602

  yesterday

  Yes, many times. Lack of effort and no sexual chemistry are my main reasons. I don't text any more as previously have done, then met, felt nothing when the chemistry in messages doesn't translate in person. I'm here to make genuine connections and I don't want to waste anyone's time or mine doing so.

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  PleasureCraft2

  -7 hours ago

  Have you read our validations? Just saying

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