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Hold Your Fucking Horses
January 15 2017
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RHP User
9 years ago
How long have you been on the site? You haven't talked to me at all on the forum, so not expecting you'll acknowledge this comment. Just wondered if you were a reincarnation, if you had baggage 😉 I have to be honest. I'm finding your comments/rants a bit annoying. You've posted other similar topics. Calm down or take a break would be my advice. Re messages, you don't owe any person a reply. They are profiles, that is it, much of the time with fake or stolen pics, so why lose sleep over it. Just don't reply 😃
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RHP User
9 years ago
As a guy, I can only imagine on this site, as with others, that women and couples are being bombarded with emails, some lovely, some confusing and others plain disturbing. But as for us mere males, oh the smile I get when I get a message from a couple, or a female such as you Femme. I've always worked on the principal you catch more bees with honey, and politeness gets more smiles than cockiness. Beeing patient, or understanding that, though you've sent what you think to be a witty and amazing first email, might be lost, bushed over our just missed in the abyss. As, let's be frank guys, women look for all sorts of qualities in guys, and we might not fit that bill for her. That's fine, that's what makes us all our own individual. Man up, man up and maybe say hello again in a few months of your still that keen. I genuinely feel for some of these sincere ladies who try in vein to reply to us all. Thank you. And to those who don't or can't due to time, attraction or a whole host of reasons, it's prefectly ok. You were worth our time to say hello (politely I do hope, without too many grammatical errors as well, my personal bug bear lol) and obviously, though I speak for myself, I hope you feel somewhat more amazing from the high level of attention your recieving. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
So many emails you have to 'reply to all on the website' in the forum. Women really do have all the luck on here ;)
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
Be prepared of a huge influx of messages. How will you keep up with all the admin ? Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Haha...have two days to myself. 😚 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Agree with DynamicCouple36 As someone who is new here to Rhp LFF your going to be bombarded by abusive males as your stated in other topics. (Sad and unnecessary.) Most people who have been on this site awhile will understand that your not online all the time. Just another way rhp pumps up business. Thankyou for the flirt and wish you lived a little closer 😉 As a guest here am only able to respond to messages. Best advice I may suggest is don't try to respond to every message, only the one's that match what your looking for & capture you eye. Please disregard my first flirt I sent, Fat fingers on my mobile.
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
"Of" should read "for". Not easy posting using an iPhone - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Smart phones and grammatical mistakes. Ohhhh, how it makes me frustrated how we can't edit or posts. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
So you're saying is men need to resend messages again, if you haven't answered because you're too busy? No one is that too busy. If the President of America can run a country and make time for his family...well good on them. If I was a male and a women asked me to resend...I would be saying "Hold your horses cause I've already sent you one". If she hadn't answered then it says to me disorganised/time poor or not into me..NEXT! Time to jump on my horse, (go fishing), because I am not waiting around for no one. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Would also like to mention that if you don't log out correctly everytime then your profile will remain on. Thankyou Rhp for sending me the ticket to clarify this. Hope this knowledge helps other's who thought diffrently or unsure why. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think its probably more a case of not replying instantly. I know i am slack at replying and have gotten really nasty messages for not answering instantly. That just makes it easier to decide to ignore any future contact.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yeah i agree its not about being disorganized or not interested sometimes we just forget to get back to the message or are busy. I also get rude messages when i dont reply straighaway. Chill out people we all have lives other than on here. No need to be rude and nasty if you dont get a reply in a few hours. But thanks for your messages.😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Maybe...you could be right? That's not how I interrupted the original post. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
If you're too busy and know you'll be bombarded with messages and can't reply straight away, I believe RHP has an auto-reply function? I could be wrong and it might have changed since I last checked, but that could be something to look at if you're interested. Personally I have never received any abuse for being slow in my replies. If they're genuinely interested, they'll resend a follow-up message to jog my memory 😛 I also reply to all messages and in my own time. It might be instant, it might take me a month to get back to you. Even if it's outside my criteria, I send a template 'Thanks but no thanks' reply. I haven't had any rude replies for rejecting anyone, as yet, and have only had polite responses for doing so. You tend to get a positive response if you're tactful. If people are abusive because they're impatient, be glad you dodged that bullet and move on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I find that comment a little rude to say the least ! So there isn't a human body that creates a profile ??? Or is a profile just computer generated ? Yes I'm sure there are some profiles that aren't real or deceitful but you wouldn't know if you never meet them or exchanged photos ? Why does Femme need to justify herself or even talk to you ? It's not all about you either ! Are you in her search critera ? So why would she ?... She also lives in Qld. I'll let you in on a secret I noticed her profile as a new member a few weeks back so there is your answer. If you don't like someone's post then that is your opinion, I'm sure you have annoyed plenty of people here within the forum with your claims and remarks! Judging people's every word and pic's in profiles as if there not real. So if where all just a profile does that include yourself ??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
And the winner in the category for " Most Topics By A New Member"...... is....... 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' And the winner in the category for " Most Topics By A New Member"...... is....... 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile Maybe so but her topics have been a refreshing change from How big? How long? How much? and Who do we hate this week? !When was your last topic ?Carry on FF, enjoying your topics.
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Why does the OP have to calm down for??? Sorry, but I disagree, I have not found any of LFF's forum Topics to be rude, annoying or anything like that. What I find rude, is when posters tell other people to take a break and get off here. Now that's rude! If LFF wants to be here and write forum topics, that's her choice to make, not anyone else's. Sorry LFF, I'll stay on Topic. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
I guess thats why words are easily misinterpreted. They shouldn't but we relate our own experiences to what we read and respond according to how we read the situation. Op At least you learn who is worth your time and who isn't by the messages you get. I don't get upset by nasty or crude messages anymore. Just delete and be happy You found out what they are like sooner rather than later.
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Firery
9 years ago
Wow, I rarely get any, I do message others and I get the occasional reply. I just put it down to the lady is swamped with messages and no time to be bothered weeding through them. Picks out some she likes and replies to them only. No biggie, its life, and I live with it. The one I hate its the fuckwit guys who dont give a shit, get in, used them and fuck off. Then we the genuine ones contact them, we cop the flack of how they feel. Oh Well.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I-touch myself. Keeping it real again. No one should have to reply to anything , if they wish. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
.....And in the category for "Leading man in a humourless capacity"..... lol It was a joke, Joyce 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
i find it funny that you have time to post a lot but do not have time to send messge back iam only just asking this so please do not get up set
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RHP User
9 years ago
When I decided to join RHP I momentarily thought that perhaps this site may be less judgemental and I'll go there, less abusive towards Posters and Profiles then a couple of other sites I've tried but it appears not. Surely whether you agree or disagree with the OP, surely other thoughts and opinions can be added to the discussion with reverting to insults and shaming but it happens on here regularly - and that's a real shame on a site designed for adults
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' .....And in the category for "Leading man in a humourless capacity"..... lol It was a joke, Joyce 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile I know it was a joke, it's always a joke.
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RHP User
9 years ago
When I first joined, I had pages of messages, at least a hundred or more, and as fast as I could reply, yes back then I was like the op, I felt it impolite not to reply, more messages came in. But I didn't start posting on the forum immediately, and when I did, I remember vaguely, expressing my frustration about being overwhelmed. But I also remember stating how grateful I was for all the interest. I was very grateful, maybe it's my age and knowing without the internet, we wouldn't have this at our fingertips. I also remember posting a comment in a topic about how many views etc we get every day. I think, and don't quote me on this, but I think I was getting over 5500 views per day. I don't think anyone believed that, but it was the truth, as shown on my stats. I don't check very often now but my views usually sit at around 2500, now that is, so very different to when I was fresh meat lol those were the days 😀 my inbox has also practically dried up currently, just being honest here. But I'm time poor at the moment anyway and have a few guys, my life has also changed, so I'm a lot more cruisy about this stuff. My comment was a bit harsh, and to be fair, I think I took the trophy early in my time here, with new topics. And yes op, a few of mine were rants. The responses weren't favorable, and only now do I understand why. The long term forum people, like I now am, view things differently to new people. They know the 'lay of the land'. As much as I haven't always got along with them, I have leant from them. Time to settle in is all you need. You only have a certain amount of hours in a day, perhaps a template reply, even suggesting they try again in a week or so, explaining that you are swamped 😃
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
But if your too busy to keep up with messages, if they resend then you'll be extra busy and they'll have to resend again. Then they'll have to upgrade memberships with all the extra messages that they think EVERY woman needs because they ALL appear to have lost their messages. With all due respect, the obvious answer is to have less threads running and answer said messages that must be answered. There. Problem solved maybe. Was that the answer?
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
We apear to have posted at the same time. 2 great minds l think they say!
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MissBishere
9 years ago
I can't even... just wow.
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MissBishere
9 years ago
You know you can do a bulk reply to your messages received so you could have just sent them all a message "privately" rather than quite publicly.
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sweetgem
9 years ago
That this thread of yours is only about you having a rant, Femme :) but I am going to share my thoughts on this "hold your fucking horses" issue of yours anyway 😊 Like any newbies, I had the same issue too when I first signed up to RHP. I, too, had whinged about it so furiously, and constantly, in the Forums, like what you have been doing, but without realising that I was actually damaging my own "brand" on here while I continued to drop ranting bombs like yours so publicly! But I was lucky that someone cared enough to point that out to me and I listened! So I thought to myself "what can I do to stop attracting the wrong type of attention, and men who aren't my type?"......can you guess what I did Femme? 😊 I began to pay for a membership and upgraded my messaging ability! By doing that, I did not have to come in the Forums regularly to put my name out there and get noticed! I could just send messages to men whose profiles matched mine and vice versa. Paying for a membership might not seem practical to many newbies, but it does have its merits and benefits! 😊 Of course, it is entirely your choice whether or not you want to pay up for a membership 😊 I am not saying that you should. I am indeed merely sharing my experience, and solution, of my past experiences on Pie 😊 Anyways, it won't be too long before some other newbies come along, and that attention (for you) will die out pretty rapidly too, even before you realise it! So, enjoy the attention for now and embrace your new experiences instead 🙃 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's all to easy sometimes to fly of the handle when a new person hits this site, I believe alot of people get tierd of the same or similar threads being brought up all the time when someone new hits the scene. So try to make them feel welcome instead of critising straight away. Certainly understand how women & men can become jaded when there post's and profiles are constantly scrutinized. Yes unfortunately there will always be dishonest profiles or abusive messages. Simply delete and block. Just remember fellow bloggers we were all newbies here at some stage. Your not always going to agree it's how you come accross that's more important. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm sorry to have upset you by not offering a personal response to your posts until now. I have greatly appreciated your insight on my topics and many others. I am brand spanking new to the forum world, outside of facebook anyway and was unaware that there was a particular etiquette to follow. Thanks for pulling me up. I've been on rhp for sometime now and due to my lack of technological savvy, was completely unaware of the forum feature. Now I am, I'm like a kid in a candy store - it's not like I can ask any of these questions in the lunchroom at work! I wanted to clear the air. Thanks again, Femme💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think you may be dead right on all counts. Thanks! - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
That's true, however in the original post, it is stated to resend another message (quote) "Hey you, remember me?". I'm interested in responses, how men feel about sending a 2nd message like the example given. Ms Foxy
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
Quoting 'that50zguy' Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' .....And in the category for "Leading man in a humourless capacity"..... lol It was a joke, Joyce 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile I know it was a joke, it's always a joke. The message, or the messenger... Tall
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RHP User
9 years ago
Tissue ... tall?
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' That's true, however in the original post, it is stated to resend another message (quote) "Hey you, remember me?". I'm interested in responses, how men feel about sending a 2nd message like the example given. Ms Foxy Yes. Also how would the women feel about getting that message.The OP seems to contradict the general attitude the women have about repetitive messages and the content there of
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RHP User
9 years ago
Can only speak for myself but when I was a member and if I didn't receive a reply to a well written, polite message then I would presume she wasn't Intrested. I certainly wouldn't send a a second and pretty sure most guy's would feel the same. ☺ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
oops views per month, not per day 😊 😇
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RHP User
9 years ago
Was it something I said ? Wow, I thought my message was on the money ? Your reply to my message is overdue, please reply immediately or you will miss out on this once in a lifetime offer. Etc. If you think she's worth it what have you got to lose ? If the lady is one of those who keeps a finger hovering over the block trigger then so what ? Fortune favours the bold.
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
yes...In my first post (in this forum), I did answer from a females point of view, putting myself in a man's shoes and how I would feel about that. Ms Foxy x
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RHP User
9 years ago
And all of the comments. It made me go and look at my mailbox and send a few reply's
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Thank you for answering. I'm thinking along the same lines as you about sending a 2nd message. A no reply is a "I'm not interested", isn't it?? LFF, Welcome, it's good to see new faces and posters in the forums. :) Thanks for this Topic, it certainly is intriguing. Certainly makes me think about different view points on this Topic. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
More then welcome Foxy. As a male I think it's more frustrating not to receive a reply regardless if there not intrested. (Providing it's polite & worthy of one.) Doesn't matter if it's a computer generated response saying no thanks When a bloke puts in a real effort and reads your profile to receive nothing back we start to wonder WTF is wrong with me ? (Is it my pic's,words, or that there just to busy right now. ) 😉 I will say that some women can be Intrested and send you the most lovley messages then turn cold without any explanation to as why. It certainly baffles us blokes.. Think most gents would prefer the truth then to be led on a wild goose chase. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Quoting 'Cheekyass71' More then welcome Foxy. As a male I think it's more frustrating not to receive a reply regardless if there not intrested. (Providing it's polite & worthy of one.) Doesn't matter if it's a computer generated response saying no thanks When a bloke puts in a real effort and reads your profile to receive nothing back we start to wonder WTF is wrong with me ? (Is it my pic's,words, or that there just to busy right now. ) 😉 I will say that some women can be Intrested and send you the most lovley messages then turn cold without any explanation to as why. It certainly baffles us blokes.. Think most gents would prefer the truth then to be led on a wild goose chase. - Posted from rhpmobile Plenty of guys do the same to women and trans. Thats not a womans domain thats for sure
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes I'm sure it's across the board on all genders. Doesn't take much to say sorry your not my type.... Maybe something for us all to think about next time we receive a message. ☺ Yet as we all know women on rhp get bombarded by messages so can understand there lack of replying. If you/they were to try to reply to everyone then you'd never have a life.😉 us gents are lucky to even receive one a month 😂If that. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
all good, thanks 😉 Cheekyass, why do I feel naughty typing that? Haha I sometimes get so busy, guys slip through the net, and when I was swamped like the op is now, plenty slipped through the net. So I was sometimes grateful for a second message, the penny would drop that I had neglected to get back to them, and I'd quickly reply saying how sorry I was with some feeble excuse. I didn't want to say I had 5000 other guys to sort out before I got to them lol now that sounds arrogant, but sex is so personal, so intimate, regardless of numbers, each person would take center stage and the other 5000 😊 would fade into the background. I decided I didn't want to make anyone feel like a number, a notch. I'm afraid I failed with that, as time wore on, sometimes anyway, didn't mean to, and the same has happened in reverse, but because of that I did feel under pressure to reply to all messages, a seemingly impossible task. I ended up coming up with a strategy, to not sleep until I had answered them all 😯 2 days later and a complete vegetable 😕 I realised I was then starting conversations 😀 all good fun, but I never took it for granted, and I still don't. Thanks for reminding me of our beginnings, stumbling through, only able to do the best we can at the time 😃
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am such bloody mush, I find it difficult to say no to people as it is, the idea that I have upset someone by either being swamped or oblivious or both. @ Cheekyass - thank you for sharing. @50zguy - you too @ Foxy - If you had a blog I'd read it! @I_touch_touch_myself - I'm looking forward to becoming pay off the furniture! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Spend more time replying (if you're that worried about missing some), instead of creating new topics all the time? Personally, I'd never say I'll reply to every message, you're just setting yourself up for problems. Who has that much time to spend in here? Oh, wait....... 😜😂😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy'I'm interested in responses, how men feel about sending a 2nd message like the example given. the general answer to any thread asking "why don't they respond" has been "no response means no interest", so you wouldn't send one because it'd be a waste of time. If OP genuinely wants a follow-up reminder, perhaps she could add it to a template auto-reply.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I can't see why everybody gets worked up about receiving replies or abusive messages. There is a block button for abusive messengers and I know we rarely if ever get a reply to any messages we send out unless advertising a party. We don't expect a response and if we did we would've quit this site 2 and a half years ago through sheer frustration. Some people get a little caught up in this little RHP bubble and forget there's a world outside full of people. Welcome to the forums LFF, you'll soon realise the sharks from the fish and how best to avoid them. Enjoy your time here, and stay true to yourself.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Good point KissKiss80 :) Just an idea and certainly not telling anyone what to do but if I was a women on here and was influxed with messages constantly, I'd do a few things to weed out the wankers. 😂 And let's face it all blokes like a wank. 😉😂 1. Entail within my profile that you will only respond to your search critera, All those who fail to read your profile & critera will be meet with a auto reply saying no thanks. 2. Put in my profile that your active within the adult forum's and there views and words will be listened to. If they stimulate your mind then they will receive a reply.lol If they can't be bothered in getting to know you here within forum then there not worthy or just out for themselves.? 3. Take your time and respond when you can. Sometimes then ones who are more patient are the one's you don't want to let slip through your fishing net. Better to be with no one then the wrong one. Most decent men on here understand a reply might take week's. 4. The one's who keep pestering you or become abusive are the ones to avoid and block. 5 Mention in your profile that you will only respond to messages that stimulate your mind and body so they know No reply = Not intrested. Hopefully this will prevent abusive second messages. Sorry for the long winded blog but I'm recovering from surgery and to much time on the pie. Ooh ITM2 nothing wrong with feeling naughty 😈😈😈 It's why where all here. 😉😉😉 Well I'm an angel 😇😇😇 - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Perhaps, but you have to ask LFF. Then it's her choice if she wants too or not. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
All points fine.... in theory. However....1 & 2 fall down as it assumes guys actually read the words in a profile. They don't. And even Less scrutiny is given if there's a profile photo. (Hell, there's a bloke in here who seems driven to send friend requests to every female profile the day it's loaded...even the obviously fake profiles... and he says he's not here to waste anyone's time!). 3 is fine, but that's about your patience, not their impatience.... and it's the latter which drives 4, the sex pestering behaviour 5 see Point 1s fatal flaw Perhaps fortunately, it is the very behaviour of many people in here which assists the few genuine women to filter away the undesirables, unsuitables and the just.... un's. Telling people what you want is no guarantee that only those will contact you as everyone wants a yes answer.
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RHP User
9 years ago
that was like taking a bullet. Part of the furniture. I haven't been here that long have I?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Well i can only speak for myself personally but this little black duck reads every word of someone's profile including the interests and personal critera before any contact. (Not that i contact anyone as I'm a guest now).Not all men are the same. ) 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm a firm believer in concise phrasing, every word being carefully chosen with a purpose, when I send "sup, wanna fuck?" you can rest assured, it was crafted after taking into account your likes, hopes and desires as conveyed in your profile. You can see that I'm interested in you and how your day has been, also, that I'm not interested in wasting your time with an unclear message leaving you to ponder my intentions for our possible time together. I think ladies appreciate those qualities in an Alpha gent
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RHP User
9 years ago
Is damn good sign that they're waiting by the phone holding their breath and probably their dick...... this whole "you gotta reply to me, and in a timeframe I think you should" attitude is to me, nothing short of saying that the senders interests are more important than the receivers..... Get over yourselves a little, get a hobby, crack a bourbon and chill the fuck out.....
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_in_Sydney' Take me to bed, or lose me forever. show me the way home honey!
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RHP User
9 years ago
answered every message or read flirt I've received. My time and energy is better spent elsewhere. That's time I'd never get back! 80-90% hook up messages will lead nowhere. Some people are just desperate. If I have been specific enough in my profile/photos and guys get it, then that narrows it down by a lot and still I don't reply to every email. Hence, the specific warnings in my long-winded profile: "if I don't reply, then it means you're not what I'm looking for", "no photo = no response" I stand by those 2 main points cos if they have followed what I've written, then they get my attention. Shows a guy can follow directions and most probably listen and not fuck things up with me. I put a lot of effort into my profile and expect a certain standard and I know other females out there do as well ;) Some hook up messages look very "template" like. Some are just so damn long winded and I just roll my eyes and maybe skim a few lines and then... Delete - NEXT! Unless it's a friendly email with no sex on the agenda. Your time is precious, precious 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Its online dating. We are not Sexual Goddesses living in our High Towers. If the guys saw us first thing in the morning before we even brush our teeth then they would wonder what the connection was between that image and the well taken photos we put on our profiles. Ill be shot down here but yes, we do get a teensy bit big for our boots when the messages start flooding in. I dont think its a bad thing as sometimes we have had a bad experience and it is good for our self confidence. But it doesnt reflect real life, no one gets crowded by guys when they go for the weekly groceries. Give the blokes a break. Ive met some wonderful guys on here, respect to them for persevering in the female jungle that is RHP
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's a tricky problem isn't it, you want a guy to read your profile and compose a decent introduction and yet you reserve the right to ignore those who don't inspire your interest.I totally get why a "wanna fuck" message or one 10 years outside your preferred age range doesn't deserver a message.So how about we hit the middle ground and you only reply to the good messages, the ones that have obviously had some time put into them, are polite, but for one reason or another fall short, there won't be that many of them. Consider it a favour to other people who may find the writer attractive.I'm sure it is somewhat soul destroying replying to fuckwits and being abused, but it is also soul destroying putting in genuine effort and being totally ignored. Keep the ground fertile, you reap what you sow.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' That's true, however in the original post, it is stated to resend another message (quote) "Hey you, remember me?". I'm interested in responses, how men feel about sending a 2nd message like the example given. Ms Foxy Most replies to this seem to say that no response = no interest. I don't see it like that. I know that it's a decent chance that no response equals no interest but there is also a decent chance that no response means that they have their sights and/or hands on someone else at that time. It can also mean, like the OP, that they were swamped or distracted and you got lost in the pile. Null response is clearly not a Yes but it's also not a No. I have successfully sent a "Hey remember me" type message on several occasions. It usually doesn't even require an actual message, a couple of profile views or a flirt sent while they're online can say the same thing. This approach will increase the chances of getting an actual Yes or No answer and some, probably small, percentage of these will be a Yes. Timing is very important in this dance and, I believe, learning to gauge when a prospective sex interest is available and dropping the message/reminder at the right time is more important than crafting an interesting message which personally I find to be very effective at recruiting pen pals but only somewhat effective at recruiting sex partners.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Looking through profiles I'm looking at the age range someone looking for, if it's ?? to 99 or 80 which is my age range I will send a short message. Most of the time (90%?) they don't look for anybody who is that old.
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RHP User
9 years ago
gripe?
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Gets fuck all. He's a member and prob sent 6 messages. He's used to being the hunted via me. And prob because i hog the internet connection. But he doesnt care. Knows one day he will get messaged........ before we turn 80. He's not desperate
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
I can see your point if view...yes I agree, about timing and the dance. Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
No, he's not desperate. 😊 Ms Foxy x
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RHP User
9 years ago
Timing, yes it's all about timing. I let guys go purely because I had others on the go and it's not possible or fair to the current people we're seeing to be distracted and find time to constantly be recruiting new ones. There were many I wouldn't turn down now, who I wouldn't have turned down at the time, if I'd had time to see them. The timing thing comes into play or is an issue when we might be really into one connection, that connection monopolises our time, obviously a good thing, but when one person satisfies us, or a few main players, that also reduces the need to be looking for others. I do believe there is no harm in trying again after a period of time. Nothing to lose and everything to gain IMO the thing I've found too is that our preferences change as we move through this and evolve. There was a time where I hated anal, and a time where I only met guys with large cocks lol until I had different encounters with very different lovers, only tall guys, I can't put into words how I now look at every individual as an individual and how turned on I am now by guys I would have once overlooked. Nicely put 👍
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RHP User
9 years ago
So I changed our profile once again. I don't expect anything to change as I'm sure 99% of the people who click on the profile stop reading when they see "a little extra padding" in the body type box. And my head. I know this cos when it was just a set of boobs and average in the body box (for me, the wifes body type has no standing on hits) we actually got one or two lol.
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Tissue ... tall? the messenger is the real joke...
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RHP User
9 years ago
a week later? Really?? Hahaha TissueS plural lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
...that, when you open the box you'll find there are no rules or instructions included in the packaging. These forums can be interesting too as sometimes a comment oft misunderstood is like a bag of hot chips dropped in the parking lot near the beach...the seagulls will come out of the woodwork and dive in full fury. If ya' like 'em, tell 'em. If you don't then ignore 'em. And if they continue to or really mess with your head, I sure you can spell.... fuck off!
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sweetgem
9 years ago
You would rather be a joke than a joker, right? 😜 and I think they would need more than tissues, going by the rate of their ego! 🤣🤣 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think many just find any excuse to take offense, I prefer just ignore people like this. Relationships are so varied, and there is no point continuing one that is not a good fit for you, so why waste time on anyone that is not on your level? If I messaged you and you did not reply, I would not send another. As has been mentioned on here many times, women are spoilt for choice on RHP. So I would just assume that you had some issue with me or my message and had moved on. As a guest I have come to realise that my chance of finding someone is pretty much non existant, however I cannot change that at present. Thats ok, no rush.However, if I were messaged I would definitely feel the need to reply. Even if its "Im sorry, I dont think we match". So, I can see your dilemma OP. I found your questions and comments fair and reasonable, its nice to see someone putting in the effort to say "I dont always get back to you quickly, sorry for this, but Im trying".
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RHP User
9 years ago
To bad i dont get the messages everyone else is getting. Maybe i have a dud profile. My pictures are mine and are all very recent. Send me some of your messages and i will reply........ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
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RHP User
9 years ago
Like just about every male here, the terrible plight of too many messages is hard to feel much sympathy for. Of course with a scientific mind I'm willing to be put through many messages from ladies to study the effects. All the name of science only of course 😳 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hey gorgeous, I totally understand life is our first and foremost responsibility so don't apologise for dickhead loosers on here who have no respect for women and have no life outside this dating site. You know when I am and our connection so when you have time let me know. I'm not going anywhere. Take care of yourself and stay super sexy beautiful lady xox - Posted from rhpmobile
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