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I'm Probably The Biggest Noob...
January 26 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
..keep the ball rolling. Confidence is king.
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RHP User
12 years ago
In heavens name have you held on to it so long? Are you attached to it?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Get over your self. Who would possibly want to be every woman's dream, I could not think of a greater nightmare than that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Meaning- When you go out one night, just think to yourself I'm great, I'm good, I am the man tonight..... Well whichever works best for you...... Stand up straight and put a I don't give a damn attitude!!! This is what girls are attracted to, the guy that oozes appeal........ I know that was what I always went for (still do)...... Nothing goes better than a man who enjoys who he is..... Also, if your down about the physique, you can do something about that one!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey 21YOV, I think it's pretty brave of you to out it out there. I was 18 and had left school by the time I got the opportunity and courage to go beyond the basics. You seem to be doing pretty well here so far gauging by the hotties on your friends list though. From what you have written above, about not having the looks or physique you think is required, and subsequent low self esteem, it needs to be pointed out that while physical attraction plays a part in this all, obviously you had what it takes to get there with your 5 missed opportunities, so have a think about what exactly those things are. What appealed to those people about you? Sure, it's good to acknowledge your weak points, but also reflect upon your strengths. What are they? What compliments and positive feedback have you received before now? What character traits do people appreciate about you? Make a list. Remind yourself about the things on your list. As a bloke, you don't need to have it all. You don't need to measure up against the ultimate man. Some women go for football heros, some go for poets. I subscribed to eHarmony for a while. Overall a dud site IMO, but they had a questionnaire upon joining that gave a personality profile that I though was brilliant. It was well rounded and gave me lots of insight into my character that I found very relevant. I would recommend something like that for you, describes how you interact with people and the world around you. The more you know yourself, the more self assured you will become. That's just as important, if not more so, than just confidence.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Brave of you to put it out there.
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RHP User
12 years ago
No one is ever a lost cause and like the others have said, it's brave to expose yourself like this on a public forum. . I think your profile is a good start, except for this... . "I'd play it safe and 'wrap it', but I'm less inclined to do so if I know you are STD-free and are on contraceptives (you know, 'the pill')." . Any self-respecting woman will run for the hills reading this. This mindset is a dangerous thing, virgin or not. You have a thing or two to learn I think, and I'm not just talking about the practical side of things. . I have encountered women here who are happy to take young men by the hand though, so don't give up. Good luck!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your second photo in your gallery I've seen elsewhere....and he wasn't a virgin.... And by elsewhere I mean a different profile.... I'm sure the profile name had something to do with balls..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
...either talk themselves up or down.. Seems yours is down but I think your fishing somehow... ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Iv always had a fantasy about being with a virgin!!! I started late as well so stress less and it will happen, confidence is the key :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
@cavey50: Not sure if sarcasm or... but thanks anyways! @Koolblue: You do have a valid point; thank you. @LaVelvetRouge: As I originally stated, those chances were in less-than-ideal situations (such as in the mens' toilets at a nightclub, where I was a host of some sort that night) or risky situations (such as on uni grounds, where we almost got caught by academics), just to name a few. No, I'm not 'attached' to it, but I would love to 'separate' from it. @Blindman67: I was exaggerating; all I see on here is fit young guys who seem to show off their chiseled bodies and that seems to make all the young women melt. @Bigmamma1: You have a really valid point; I have been addressing that aspect with a bit of exercise and health(ier) eating. That's true, I actually do ooze that vibe when I'm out as the photographer at events, but because I'm too busy as the photographer, it usually means I miss out on the opportunities because I'm too focused on doing my job. @Unrushed1: Good point, but not necessarily; as I pointed out to @LaVelvetRogue, the situations were not ideal. It didn't help that the women I encounter were drunk and I'm not the one to take advantage of that fact. I guess the positives I can say about me, in those instances, is that a) Most people would see me as the life of the party (being the photographer) - if I am at the event, that is; b) my intellectual wit tends to make up for my physique; c) I have been told that I am a 'sweet' guy on a number of occassions and am known to be a bit of a romantic person; d) I find it easy to start the small talk with women, but cannot seem to break that barrier or glass ceiling. That being said, exercising would help with all the 'nervous energy' that I seem to have, so I'll keep on doing that. @Meander: Thank you; I have removed that and am waiting on RHP's approval on my omission. That being said, I have many things to learn in the world of sex, I admit. The girl who I had an almost-encounter with at uni would have lead the way, had she known that I was a virgin; she boasted that 'I took 2 boy's virginities away'. The only thing that stopped me there was I wasn't comfortable with going 'all the way' with someone who is attached. Come to think of it, I apparently am better when the women take the lead; after all, they're usually the experienced ones, compared to me! Yeah, that was lenghty; thank you to everyone for your feedback thus far!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Several opportunities to go all the way.... suggests you obtain such opportunities... but lach the boldness and confidence to suede the moment those women are waiting for you to step up to the plate. Don't make it such a big deal. Focus on being fun, having fun.... and opportunity eill sgsin present itself. So when it does..... will you step UP?!!! (It'll also be interesting if your advertising post delivers that person who is willing to relieve you if your virginity .... that's your hope, right?! Not altogether a bad thing in the broader scheme if obtaining sexual confidence)
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RHP User
12 years ago
@Stir_it_alot: Funny you mention that; like I said, I am a photograher and I can assure you that the images on my profile are actually me (yes, before you go and ask that obligatory supplementary question, I asked other people to take the photo on my behalf!). That being said, it is Photoshopped the way it is because of my need for discretion, given the career I am going to be in, in a year's time. @Jay_Me: If you say so; all I am tindering for is feedback on what to do to make myself more marketable and/or more appealling to potential female partners. @mizellicia: Thank you. That being said, I know it will happen, but it's just a matter or when (not if!); I don't want it to be either when I'm married (as that's light years away for me, best case scenario) or when I'm really old and lost my sex drive. I could fly to Perth, but that'd be wishful thinking at this stage... @Mischeviouslad: Hammer -> Nail! You have made a really fantastic point; I'm too scared about not being able to please the woman, when I should actually be having fun and learning about sex the hard way (pun intended)! At least I have a different mindset to use when approached with the same/similar situation later down the track... Once again, thanks for your feedback; it's greatly appreciated! -the21yroldvirgin.
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RHP User
12 years ago
i thought men thinking they were top shit would turn women off :/ that must be why I'm hopeless!!
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gazpacho
12 years ago
Once you get stated all you gotta do is find the nerve to lift your feet off the ground. You'll come crashing down splat a few times until you get the hang of it but once you do it basically rides itself... you'll be letting go of the handlebars soon enough and trying out kick flip 360's in no time. It'll be ages before you nail properly, but practice makes perfect. It's no big deal really. You're putting way too much pressure on yourself.. and importance on your v plates. HUGSGAZPACHO
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am not talking about the loss of your virginity in a physical way but in the memory you may have.People always talk about how they lost it, it sticks with you. Find someone that actually cares about you, and that you can talk to and be honest with.Its a once in a life time thing, a long sensual seduction and talking all the way through is the way to go. Having other kinds of sex first, oral, tribbing, tantric etc all the pleasures that lead up to that first moment of inserting yourself into a woman. Tell the woman its you first time and learn how to pleasure her first, as you will no doubt blow your load as soon as you enter her. read about safe sex, read the forums and read books about the pleasures that women like. getting your end away is not what its about. The smart guys work that out very quickly.don't sell you self short, wait , you don't want the I should have done this or that story down the track. there is something poignantly delightful about seducing a virgin, if was that woman I would make you feel like butterfly's were coming out of your arse.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Edward_B' i thought men thinking they were top shit would turn women off :/ that must be why I'm hopeless!! re do that profile, all your doing is putting yourself down. Everything you say about yourself is negative. Your a handsome male. forget the childish face pulls , its not face book. Confident men win the day, not arrogant men. What you see on here is not often what you get, its just one guy has better advertising that the other. I know a guy here who is smoking hot but his profile does nothing to show that. I have just re done it for him last night and today he should be right between a woman's thighs right about now.so make women want you honey, you don't have to lie you just have to gift wrap yourself a bit better.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Don't really see this as a problem.. Most guys your age would love to be knocking back 5 lovelies. .? If you have the ability to get them that far , one more step and your there.. How about the girls ' how did they feel after getting so close . ? Maybe you could go back and finish where you left off.? If you don't try ' you'll never know...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I will go ahead and respond to @LadyTuscan first. @LadyTuscan: Here's a (not-so) little story for you... On one sunny Saturday afternoon, I asked a female friend of mine if she wanted to come with me to a local adult store for 'shits and giggles'. She said yes and I told her I'd meet her at her place. So that happened and we eventually made it to that said store. She was telling me about all her sex escapades with all the guys she had slept with (this was some 2 and a half years ago, mind you...), while we were browsing through the store, giggling immaturely just because, well, we could. After I bought her a few novel items at her request (some flavoured lube and a vibrator, if I recall correctly), we left the store and she proceeded to hug me as her way of saying thanks. As a joke, I asked her, "What about a kiss?", to which she gave me the subtle go-ahead, which I wasn't expecting (I was used to being rejected). That was my first kiss; it was a joke which turned out well in my favour, and we both had fun in the process. On my way to her place, I hinted that I wanted to go all the way with her, but she explained to me that she would rather let me save that special moment for someone else that would truly like me. She did, however, allow me to do a little bit of exploring on her body while I was driving. I had to stop, though, because other drivers were looking at me suspiciously, as well as her stopping me because she was about to orgasm in the car. What was the whole point of the story, you ask? That woman shared the same sentiments as you; if she didn't, I would have had my first casual encounter when I was 18. That being said, the woman I had an almost-casual-encounter with whilst on uni grounds would have shown me the ropes, but didn't because she was under the impression that I was either a sleaze who slept with other girls (like my other [then] friend she had slept with, behind her boyfriend's back) or that I was gay; I didn't tell her of the fact I was a virgin, under the ill advice given to me by a friend who is younger than me. You are right, again; I'm scared that I'll have a premature ejeculation which would make the encounter, well... short. I have a 'mentor', so to speak, who is one of the 5 lovelies @Jay_Me was referring to; however, we became friends since, and we both agree that it just doesn't feel right to become friends with benefits, given her situation (which I won't elaborate on, out of respect for her). She did, however, teach me a few things, and gives me plenty of pointers which I am looking forward to try when I have the opportunity. That being said, you are right, again; I do have a tendency to go "I should have done that" after everything I do - just look at what happened when I planned my 21st on my own, haha! Now for a subtle segue, I'm going to now reply to @Edward_B: @Edward_B: I actually agree with @LadyTuscan on this one. To that end, I will sum up my response with this equation: Confidence ≠ Arrogance. What do I mean? Well, what you perceive to be confidence is actually arrogance, in my opinion; I'll need help from others to clarify the difference between the two, however... @gazpacho51: I like your thinking; I do unnecessarily put pressure on myself, but I attribute it to social pressures (i.e., the media) and what is expected of guys my age, per se. I want to be able to learn and, if it means seeking out potential female friends on RedHotPie, then so be it. If it doesn't happen here, there's always my photography stints that could make it happen, haha! @Jay_Me: I have partially addressed the 'how did the girls feel' question in my other responses, but I'll sum it up for you... Either the woman considers me a friend without benefits, was drunk at the time when I was going to have the casual encounter, or thought I was desperate and was rushing to 'ditch the 'V' plates. To that end, I've left a message to that woman who I shared my first kiss with, and see whether or not she's changed her mind. Okay, that was really lenghty; apologies to those who actually read this reply in its entirety!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yeah, but..... This whole profile / thread is making my BS metre ring really hard. You may be genuine OP, but I'm not buying what you're selling (and I'm fully aware you're not trying to sell it to a 43 year old). This seems like a weird attempt at pulling in ladies who have a male virgin fantasy. Possibly the oddest profile I've read for a long time (as in semi-auto, postal service kind of odd). That said - I could be wrong. (I was wrong..... Once.) :-)
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
OP I haven't laughed so hard in such a long time...Thank you! Why do I think there is a 40yr old virgin siting on the keyboard. Is your name Chev by any chance?? My belly is hurting...... FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
Apollogies for the late reply (see what I did there?). @ApolloThirteen: Feel free to get your BS meter checked, as that isn't why I came on RedHotPie in the first place. I came on RedHotPie to, as I said in my profile, just experience what it is to have sex for the first time. I can assure you that, in the very unlikely event that I do manage to have a casual encounter as a result of using RedHotPie, then my both my RedHotPie profile details and handle will change; but, for now, I'm not going to lie to women who are keen on meeting me, and if they happen to have the fantasy/fetish you've discussed, then so be it. :-) @SuperFoxxxy: Even though that laugh was at my expense, you're welcome. Possibly because I like to use proper grammar and etiquette unlike people my age who wry7 lyk d1s, for example. Also, aside from @notsoinnocent20s, I cannot think of anyone around my age who actively contributes to the Adult Forums. That being said, I am 21, though I cannot really prove it until I meet the woman (or women, if I'm that lucky, haha!) in person. ;-) I can assure you that my name isn't Chev (although I do like my cars, haha!) If you were quick enough, you would have seen my name on my handle (but I immediately changed it after realising my name was somewhat unique, and I could be easily identified, given that information, haha!) Here's to hoping your belly doesn't hurt after hearing my reply, now! :-) -the21yearoldvirgin.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ditch the photo of you (?) and a woman...... youre a single guy in here.... that photo smacks of trying too hard to push the view that other women find you attractive/acceptable.... kind of a paradox to a guy who claims to be a virgin. Incongruity is NOT your friend in the world of attraction. Get outside of the issues inside your head.... namely... that you will fail before you have even tried. Thats your biggest stumbling block DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Unrushed1' Hey 21YOV, I think it's pretty brave of you to out it out there. I was 18 and had left school by the time I got the opportunity and courage to go beyond the basics. You seem to be doing pretty well here so far gauging by the hotties on your friends list though. From what you have written above, about not having the looks or physique you think is required, and subsequent low self esteem, it needs to be pointed out that while physical attraction plays a part in this all, obviously you had what it takes to get there with your 5 missed opportunities, so have a think about what exactly those things are. What appealed to those people about you? Sure, it's good to acknowledge your weak points, but also reflect upon your strengths. What are they? What compliments and positive feedback have you received before now? What character traits do people appreciate about you? Make a list. Remind yourself about the things on your list. As a bloke, you don't need to have it all. You don't need to measure up against the ultimate man. Some women go for football heros, some go for poets. I subscribed to eHarmony for a while. Overall a dud site IMO, but they had a questionnaire upon joining that gave a personality profile that I though was brilliant. It was well rounded and gave me lots of insight into my character that I found very relevant. I would recommend something like that for you, describes how you interact with people and the world around you. The more you know yourself, the more self assured you will become. That's just as important, if not more so, than just confidence. This is a really good post and I think it provides some excellent advice. Also, OP - don't worry about your age and whether you're a virgin or not. I lost my virginity once I was well into my 20's and looking back at it, I don't know why I was so concerned about the fact I hadn't had sex when I was in my early 20's. It used to bother me a lot. Now I realise how little it really mattered. Everybody is different and everybody has different circumstances that lead them down different paths.
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