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Men would never date a woman they had a one night stand with
October 03 2010
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liketofunk
15 years ago
If they start dating then the one stand ceases to exist and vice versa. So technically speaking, 'yes' no man has ever dated a girl he had a one night stand with. But thats not to say a man would not date a girl he slept the first night he meet her... ... Did anyone bother to ask women if they would date a guy they had a one night stand?!
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RHP User
15 years ago
well... its not really a one night stand anymore if you start dating, right?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think the outcome on the survey depends on the type of man that completed it... Just as the outcome of a one nigh stand depends on the type of man you're having the one night stand with...if he views women as either pure Madonnas or unclean whores-it's unlikely a relationship is going to happen-plus it's likely there will always be another woman involved in your relationship-anyway-his mother-his first teacher that has warped his view of the world or allowed it to happen and you just can't compete with that-she'll always win. Let him go-to marry someone else-and have the amazing sex he could have had in his own home at any time-in secret every now and then with randoms rather than his wife...and repeat the cycle of complete lunacy with his offspring. If a man is evolved, balanced and intelligent-and he sees you for more than what is just between your legs-well with a guy like that there's no limit to what can occur. He's the big "catch" these guys just think they are...not realising that set dressing never equates to a man of substance... As whether you meet him on here or in a bar if he wants sex and truly believes women are equal-he will never look down on a woman or judge her for being confident and sexually assertive or even aggressive. Isn't that the kind of man you want anyway-the one that digs you for who you really are? Someone that likes games but only the ones that come in a box with a board, or Playstation or in your bed? Quietly confident and self-assured, not requiring your submission or to feel less than worthy of his company because you have healthy adult needs too. The only reason a man would make issue of a woman's past would be to prop up his insecurities about his inadequate performance, previous rejections and his overall low self-esteem. You don't want to be around someone like that do you? My friend's sister met a guy by chance a two days before she left Europe-he would call and sms her, and then left his entire family and his career to come to another country to marry her-and he did not fall out of the ugly tree and he's a lovely man-when you close your eyes at night you hope to dream of someone like him... Your reality is shaped by your beliefs-believe you deserve good things and they will come to you and you won't let bad things come near you let alone in you. It doesn't happen with all one night stands but think about it like this.. If you had a stack of bills and your fairy godmother/spirit guide suddenly appeared and was handing you a million dollars would you refuse it? So why is it if you are lonely guy or just got out of a bad relationship and the person you've always wanted is now in your lap naked-why would you refuse the gift the universe has just handed you? Do you think it will or should pay out again if you are so ungrateful? How long are you going to mourn something that didn't work out? Should we be saving you a seat up at club misery, give you some razors to cut away all your pain and put on some dark tunes so you can really get your angst on? If there's a real connection, common interests, shared values and she's into giving him unlimited and unbounded physical pleasure...and says "yeah I'd like to see you again.." Wouldn't he be an absolute idiot to walk away from that? He's walking away from the possibility of unlimited great sex and ideal companionship-because why....her great crime against humanity is she slept with him? Something that he wanted her to do with her eventually anyway-right? It's not about the guy-or what guys think-it's about what you think.. what you believe is appropriate and acceptable. I feel the question should be: Why do women care what complete idiots think? If you wouldn't give an idiot half an hour let alone half a minute of your time- why would you ever want him as your other half or care what he thinks? Remember females control the gene pool. The only suggestion I can offer is have one night stands with beautiful idiots-but use lots of protection and don't worry if they don't want to see you again-the universe is doing you a huge favour... NymphetamineDrm
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ahhhh, shoes and cosmos - how can that be bad?
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RHP User
15 years ago
How do they know when they set out that it will be a one night stand though? I have a good friend who is about to marry the man of her dreams. He was a one night stand, followed her home from the pub about a year ago and just never left. The first night is always going to be a bit of a risk as far as sexual compatability goes. A one night stand implies thatyou have only just met and agreed to have sex. I tend to build the frienship first and sex is the last thing that happens. So how must we define a one night stand? If I spend months getting to know someone on line and via phone, finally get to meet them and think "well, that was a waste of time...not going there again" Is that a one night stand as well? If men have this attitude then it is no wonder so many of them are alone and lonely and I can honestly say I have not noticed this attitude amongst the men I have dated recently. We all have had lives before we meet each other. These guys dont come to me pure, untouched virgins so how then can they expect that of me? Fionabee
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have a problem with your statement "will we all end up lonely and used all in the name of so called sexual equality? " Why do you feel used about a ons, doesn't a ons by definition mean a one time fling, why would you or any person be expecting any more from it. Look i know the answer to this i think, often ons are never expressly negotiated before hand to be just that, and under those circumstances i guess could lead to some women having an expectation that it could go further.I also understand ( i'm sure i have read this somewhere) that when a single woman has sex it generates a feeling of love and bonding, which mostly doesn't happen with guys.I think that the problem lies in the term "sexual equality" try as they might, most women can not have sex like a male.Most women are just not wired this way, now i'm sure i will get some that will say i can! , but you have to remember that this is Rhp and those women who think they can, genuinely or not, will be concentrated here and not a fair representation of the single female community as a whole.Has it done any favours for womanhood? i am sure it has been liberating for some and equally crushing and unfullfilling for others who try and live up to that ideal.Would you go on to date someone you had a ons with? absolutely if there was a connection, but so often i think participants are selected purely on physique so the chances of that connection happening are all to remote!This is totally up to the female, and as such you are digging your own grave in this game.Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
A Liberated woman.... Is that one, who will overlook the fact that the guys is married and cheating?Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think you should ignore that feed back.... there is more to consider than 1 night stand
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think it depends on the initial contact ummm ..If it was only going to be a one nighter then so be it..But if we both thought wow that was great and we got on well then of course things may progress.. Sex in the City is one of my fav shows..I think the show was great for all of us..It put sex out there, more public , more open perhaps..It stirred opinion and it was in our face..
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think you need to be honest and straight forward. 11 years ago I had a one night stand with a guy. Then it turned into sex with no strings. We had an upfront disscussion about this, He agreed. I went away for 4 weeks with no contact & realised I had more feelings for him. Got back & rogered him senseless, Then explained that my feelings had changed & I was looking for more.Which he either needed to supply or I would move on to someone who could. He had a think & we became A Couple (capital letters). We have been married for 6 years in November ;-) I think it depends on the couple. Though I have seen a few posts on here from women who have got burnt because they have developed feelings for a FWBenifits...and just assumed that things were heading in the new direction...only to find out that the guy had no intentions of becoming serious. If you really have committed feelings for your ONS or FWB you need to speak up. Yes there is a chance he may leave but surely its better to move on to more committed pastures than to stay with a guy with no intentions of committing...If that is what you are looking for. Be up front & honest. Dont assume & dont beat around the bush! Love Mrs H xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
All of my relationships (post Virginity), started from a one night stand! As the lovely Taipan stated...if it's there, it's there! I did most of the breaking up with these men (never was the marrying kind)..but some of these were long term relationships! I just must be great at sex hehe. xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
...basically for me history shows me that a one night stand can lead to a very long and loving relationship....I have been fortunate to have had 2 lovely long term partners and while the relationships are now over (after 5 and 8 yrs respectively) BOTH started from a one night stand I just couldnt get rid of and didnt want to for sometime...... Kissea Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'NevandKj' I also understand ( i'm sure i have read this somewhere) that when a single woman has sex it generates a feeling of love and bonding, which mostly doesn't happen with guys. Love? Bonding? Nev baby I'll bond with you anytime - duck tape?? Superglue?? masking tape? ropes?? Take your pic babe...am all yours...lol... Kisses Focus (off track I know but I soemtimes do only have a one tracked mind)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am gunna go with the duck tape, cause i am just dyeing to find out what that is....lol Is that what they use to hold the ducks onto the ceiling, you know the ones that blow hot/cold air into the room from your air conditioner or gas furnace..heheheReckon i could be in trouble now hehehe!Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
Scaring me now Trish....lol Having visions of that scene from American Pie.....the one with the superglue....heheheCheers Nev......Doesn't want his bits and pieces glued together
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RHP User
15 years ago
My one night stand turned into an eight year relationship, with 6 of those married. Purely by accident, neither of us were in any way looking for a relationship. Oops :) Mrs W
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Taipan12' I think it depends on the initial contact ummm ..If it was only going to be a one nighter then so be it..But if we both thought wow that was great and we got on well then of course things may progress.. Sex in the City is one of my fav shows..I think the show was great for all of us..It put sex out there, more public , more open perhaps..It stirred opinion and it was in our face.. I didn't realise a pet snake would be this low maintenance...and wise. I can see why Eve was tempted. So was Samantha your favourite? *smirk* NymphetamineDrm
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'wilko23'My one night stand turned into an eight year relationship, with 6 of those married. Purely by accident, neither of us were in any way looking for a relationship. Oops :) Mrs W Loving the photo-Mrs W...he's so obviously a smart man with fantastic taste-well done. Ye of little faith...look and learn.. One night in Heaven you may walk away with your own Angel..to watch over you or watch you do all kinds of interesting and entertaining things... mmm...Watchers... *evil giggle* NymphetamineDrm
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RHP User
15 years ago
Seems a shame that so many people have closed minds these days. It appears both sexes apply so many rules to sex and dating that they narrow the field so much they end up alone. It's the welcoming, accepting and open minded people that are getting all the sex. Imagine dismissing someone for giving you what you want... That's just fukking stupid lol.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Easy is good for this Taipan..Samantha is just about every mans fav !! she had me the day she said c..t !! oh and had the lesbian thing going....And well justs loves sex..Um Sex in Pyrmont come on !!
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RHP User
15 years ago
if standing on the first night is all that happens then how the hell can it go down hill from there ????? thats like saying: I only had one sip from the bottle osifer honest hickkkkkk you realy have to give everything a second go and more, if there is enough spark for the first night then see whats there for more Andy xxxxxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
In our case yes - one night stand turned into 16 year relationship - 9 of those (and counting) happily married :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
well said
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RHP User
15 years ago
The question is far too vague, for a start most guys would. The question obviously means would a guy date a girl who put out on the first night, something I don't have any problem with.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I prefer to just figure out everything as I go along. Rules like that make no sense. That said, a stand would probably give me a good indication of whether I'd -like- to date the person - I tend to the most unstereotypical in that I generally want to talk to a partner -before- I want things to get intimate. I have had one night stands where I never saw the person again but I'm far more inclined to sleep with someone if I like them... and if there's a significant personality clash I'm just not interested... It usually takes more than a body to sex me up.. I don't think I've ever slept with someone I didn't find attractive both mentally and physically, and that's the sort of person I'd date as well... Kinda find it hard to understand the guys who (and I know more than one) pick up women they have no interest in as people. Seems about as intimate as a love pillow to me... Sex with a person beats sex with a doll any day, for me at least..
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RHP User
15 years ago
For me it doesn't matter, if there is something there I reckon find out. I have heard the same thing about "Would you date a woman who you had sex with on the first date". Why limit the possibilities of finding someone based on when you first had sex? Same thing for one night stands, why limit yourself, you might miss out on someone wonderful. Having said that, most one night stands are just that, for a variety of reasons with neither person wanting more than a night of passion and fun. No harm in asking if the other person wants to get together later though, the worst they can do is say no.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I was supposed to be a little fling, but apparently Mrs Rough found me charming enough to marry Although the way she puts it, she only married me to get her $50 back Yes, one night stands CAN and DO turn into much much more.
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