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August 30 2010

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Does anyone else find it exceptionally scary having people over to play? I'm not thinking in a dangerous "I hope he doesn't chop me up with an axe” way, I'm thinking in a "Jesus did I vacuum well enough/are my odds and sods put away nicely/will they notice that my fridge needs a wipe out/is it ok that I feed my dog in the kitchen/is my recycling program up to scratch?" kind of a way... I usually favour private parties, the sex ‘sinema’ or a fellow RHPer’s house for play locations. Or my car if it’s a dark and sexy night and there’s a French guy and a Chilean guy involved... Anyway I recently decided to invite someone over to play (fuck) and spent most of the arvo stashing things around the place, dusting and cleaning up, and suddenly at about 5pm realised I hadn't shaved my chi chi. Honestly! (It's ok, I had time to do it!) I know that recently when friends of mine held a small soirée they raced around frenetically removing children's toys, polishing things, arranging cushions and candles and cheeses and exhausting themselves... For some reason I find the thought of having someone come over to my house for sex more intimate than the sex itself... I am happy to discuss favourite porn scenes and nasty fetishes and how I fisted that guy’s arse and when and where I like to masturbate (in the morning, on the floor) but if someone knew what book I was reading or what toilet paper I bought this week or what a state of disarray my bathroom was in I think I’d probably die of embarrassment. Does anyone else feel like this or am I a paranoid freak? Your-place-please Betsy

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Living in a share house as a temporary guest, I don't really have much say about the state of the place, and it is definitely not in a state that I would keep my own house in! I'm actually quite embarrassed to have anyone over and stressing about that and trying to make what I can clean and presentable is more stress than would be relieved by playing.Your place! And yours! And yours!

  • Mr_Invisible

    Mr_Invisible

    15 years ago

    I have a buddy that pops by and my house could be describes as "single mans clean"No issues thereI have another buddy I visit.... she's asked to pop over but I tell her its the maids week off and besides I'm not sure my wife and kids would approve (I'm single so no wife and kids anyway)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Some how...I don't think your guest will be focused on how fastidious you are about your place. I'm sure his attention will be on you and the wild time ahead.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I fell in love with him when he uttered the words...."messy women make the best lovers"........ omg, lucky I was sitting down cause I went weak at the knees. His theory, women who are meticulously tidy, you know the ones who dont let anything be out of place, ever....never relax and really throw themself into abandonded sex. They are too busy worrying about if their hair is out of place, does the bed still look pretty, are my cushions being ruined, is that a foot print or handprint on the ceiling mirror etc....lol As for moi......my place is clean but I am prone to creating wonderful mess! These days there are times I even go out of my way to create a mess just for the love of it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    not a pigsty mess......just lived in, worked in, little mess! lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Yep I agree 100% with Sweetiepie. Hotels all the way. Not just because I feel safer in one and I dont have to change the sheets after but because I can't actually take a guy home anyway because I live with very strict christian parents. LOL I think they would both be very angry and disappointed if they found out I was having casual sex, After all christians are ment to only have sex after marriage... SCREW THAT! So I tell them I am staying at my best friends house, she covers for me and I spend the weekend in a hotel having lots of hot horny sex with a rhp guy Taby.

  • DonnaBrett

    DonnaBrett

    15 years ago

    When it's just another couple or maybe a few people we certainly prefer playing at our house whenever we can (working around an 18 year old teenager can be tricky tho LOL). At our place we know we can set the mood right...lighting, music, incense etc etc. There is nothing more mood killing than walking into someone's home with the intentions of sexy fun only to find all the lights on, TV blaring out the 'Neighbours' theme and unfolded washing hanging over the lounge...it really doesn't take much effort. For bigger gatherings the Hotel parties are definitely the go...but the same conditions should apply...set the mood cos bright lights & TV sport do not get things off to a good start!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    You always understand me... As for hotels, and this could really be another thread... I tend to pay half if I meet someone and we decide on a hotel play. I think that maybe my 21-year-old-Taby days are over with a boy paying for the whole bill... I do make lots of effort with my house, it's usually lovely and shiny, it's more the 'intimacy' of letting someone into your private zone rather than the mess part. BB

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I hear you Ms BetsyBellagio loud & clear,I hav two house mates & they work from home, though is a window of opportunity...One is a taxix driver & leaves for his shift around 6pm & doesn't return till around 9 or 10 am...My other house mate hits the local at 5pm & returns tank'd between 7.30 & 10pm & crashes...I am one of those people do a spot check of the house, Check the wine avalability...candles & incense...The fire place has enough wood...As well, enough nibblies ( besides me :)) are on hand :)...The funny thing is, if the ambience of light is just right & the two energies are on fire...who really matters about the odd piece of detail out of place...LOL.31.8.10..." ReverandLust.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    That's a golden quote from The Mentalist and I'd say that it's borne out as true in my experience. When I was living in Sydney I had a couple of FWBs (at different times) and I have to say that I always found the lived-in nature of the house somewhat arousing. I suppose part of it was a certain taboo feeling of bringing this transgressive, extra-familial sexual encounter into a dormant family environment. I think the thing I liked most was the ease my partners showed in being at home. As we grew to know one another better, they became even more relaxed and I will admit on more than one occasion I had to extract a toy from an unexpected place!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    would i have a man in my house as a matter of fact i have a wonderful male friend on here that thinks its funny to tell me he is coming round to have a coffee when he is in town...just so he can see me hyperventilate the thought of having a man in my house makes me sick i dont even allow my exes in any more lol i think i have a problem haha roxxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    .....no unexpected kiddies toys at this place.....though there may be a cat who likes to watch.....lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Oho, a cat, really? I have to admit that since leaving home the only thing I've really missed is having a cat around the place. I'd get one but it just makes finding a place to live so darned difficult! I am a bit of a cat whore and will spend ages chatting up cats that I pass when I'm walking around the neighbourhood!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'intriguedcurious' .....no unexpected kiddies toys at this place.....though there may be a cat who likes to watch.....lolMy cat/s don't just like to watch... sometimes they'll sit there on the bed and sleep the whole time!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    My house is chaos, in a creative and eclectic way (that's my excuse and I'm sticking to it), and I'm shameless about the fact. It's comfortable, my sheets are always clean and 1000 thread, what more do you need? I've got waaaaaaay too much to get through in life to spend time keeping neat, let alone worrying about what people think about it. And although I'm always fascinated by a woman's house when I first enter it, cleanliness isn't my primary interest, and I'm totally non-judgmental about what I see. I'm just fascinated by the physical manifestation of her personality. Which means, I guess, that my personality is chaotic (and a little bit filthy).

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'taby001' Yep I agree 100% with Sweetiepie. Hotels all the way. Not just because I feel safer in one and I dont have to change the sheets after but because I can't actually take a guy home anyway because I live with very strict christian parents. LOL I think they would both be very angry and disappointed if they found out I was having casual sex, After all christians are ment to only have sex after marriage... SCREW THAT! So I tell them I am staying at my best friends house, she covers for me and I spend the weekend in a hotel having lots of hot horny sex with a rhp guy Taby. holy kahoonas batman.. i mean Tabby.. you don't come across are christian one bit.. espescially with the pic of u wearing a pentagram!! but brilliant work though hiding this secret life of your from your parents.. i can totally understand the idea of free rent costing just a few white lies and cover ups!! mu ha ha.. My parents are pure blue blooded Christians too.. LOL and look how i turned out!! I think I see a pattern here. must investigate..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'lilmissflirty75' Quoting 'intriguedcurious' .....no unexpected kiddies toys at this place.....though there may be a cat who likes to watch.....lolMy cat/s don't just like to watch... sometimes they'll sit there on the bed and sleep the whole time! Your pussies get involved in the action too....woohoo.... ;-) hugs Wayne x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Where were you when I lived in Enmore last year? Being filthy around the corner I expect...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'niceguy0068' Quoting 'lilmissflirty75' Quoting 'intriguedcurious' .....no unexpected kiddies toys at this place.....though there may be a cat who likes to watch.....lolMy cat/s don't just like to watch... sometimes they'll sit there on the bed and sleep the whole time! Your pussies get involved in the action too....woohoo.... ;-) hugs Wayne x You'd better believe it!! mwah

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Great if you got heaps of spare money to just throw around easier for us to meet at ours peoples places or a hotel we live in a townhouse and it's to small to do anything here

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I'm single and have my own home so it is available if my partner is willing to come home, or meet in a motel, don't really have a perference, depends really on if there are local or not. Rich

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    First, I might suggest that if you have a concern that you may invite someone that is criminally insane, is on probation for robbing banks or may have a propensity for violence...you may want to ask a few questions first? I know...some women do like that "bad boy" thing but that hopefully is more attitude than action. | I a woman is gracious enough to invite me to her home...I am very comfortable with that and I don't really go around wearing a white glove checking for dust. Too, whether eloborate or simply comfortable...I am much more interested in the woman I can assure you. | My home is interesting to say the least...the upstairs is where I live and the downstairs with back entrances, is much like an office with guest quarters. That being the case, quite a few people are free to come and go as they please...ranging from my business manager to any number of associates and friends. Yes, I can lock either or both to separate them...but visits and vistors and often be ill timed. | A posh hotel...room service...and someone else to clean up? I am there and don't have to worry about getting anything from exotic scented massage oils to chocolate off the sheets, linen and whereever else those little bits of euphoria may end up. | Put out the "Do Not Disturb" sign and don't wake anyone in the adjoining rooms!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' First, I might suggest that if you have a concern that you may invite someone that is criminally insane, is on probation for robbing banks or may have a propensity for violence...you may want to ask a few questions first? I know...some women do like that "bad boy" thing but that hopefully is more attitude than action. | I a woman is gracious enough to invite me to her home...I am very comfortable with that and I don't really go around wearing a white glove checking for dust. Too, whether eloborate or simply comfortable...I am much more interested in the woman I can assure you. | My home is interesting to say the least...the upstairs is where I live and the downstairs with back entrances, is much like an office with guest quarters. That being the case, quite a few people are free to come and go as they please...ranging from my business manager to any number of associates and friends. Yes, I can lock either or both to separate them...but visits and vistors and often be ill timed. | A posh hotel...room service...and someone else to clean up? I am there and don't have to worry about getting anything from exotic scented massage oils to chocolate off the sheets, linen and whereever else those little bits of euphoria may end up. | Put out the "Do Not Disturb" sign and don't wake anyone in the adjoining rooms! There you go, bringing up the chocolate again... mwah

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I've been known to reject a perfectly good, if not great, offer of sex based on how much 'tidying up' I feel is needed. Some guys just aren't worth the effort on some days. Of course, I also reject offers based on the time of year - I try to have as little heating as possible during winter to cut down on the cost - why should I try to appease a visitor by chewing up electricity to heat a whole house?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' First, I might suggest that if you have a concern that you may invite someone that is criminally insane, is on probation for robbing banks or may have a propensity for violence...you may want to ask a few questions first? I know...some women do like that "bad boy" thing but that hopefully is more attitude than action. | I a woman is gracious enough to invite me to her home...I am very comfortable with that and I don't really go around wearing a white glove checking for dust. Too, whether eloborate or simply comfortable...I am much more interested in the woman I can assure you. | My home is interesting to say the least...the upstairs is where I live and the downstairs with back entrances, is much like an office with guest quarters. That being the case, quite a few people are free to come and go as they please...ranging from my business manager to any number of associates and friends. Yes, I can lock either or both to separate them...but visits and vistors and often be ill timed. | A posh hotel...room service...and someone else to clean up? I am there and don't have to worry about getting anything from exotic scented massage oils to chocolate off the sheets, linen and whereever else those little bits of euphoria may end up. | Put out the "Do Not Disturb" sign and don't wake anyone in the adjoining rooms! Did you mention chocolate again??

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quite comfortable having a man over, Not when the kiddies are at home of course. By the time I get to the sex stage with any man, they know me pretty well and vice versa. If they can not handle a little mess....Their loss. If they do not like the way I keep house, they are more than welcome to do the housework for me...after we play. lol. I dont mind to watch a man in a pinny, infact, that could be quite sexy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I've had too many stalkers to feel comfortable having strangers over for play the first time. That, and my place is also my workplace - and it says waaaaay too much about me to remain anonymous! Your place, thanks. And you have lovely soft sheets, DarkHorse!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I guess if the feeling is okay through messages and telephone communications then you can get some gauge..Dont you hate the unknown !

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    They are soft, aren't they Ms V? And with soft sheets, the chaos doesn't matter... x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Recently dated a lady from interstate & on our first meeting booked into a hotel ! Even as a guy I would never assume to go back to a ladys place until I knew her ! As it turns out we clicked & she came back to my room for lots off hot sex ! Later on I got to stay at her place & she at mine, but she told me of some of her friends that hadn't meet guys at all & let them come over !! Be careful is all I can say ! Hotel rooms & mutual chemistry is fun & when theres Baileys on the sheets after using it on each other, the hotel has to wash them, LOL !! Hmmmmm YUM !