F56
Single women at swingers clubs
October 17 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
At CC you are supposed to stay together as a couple, aren't you? Personally (if I were there with my partner, not a FWB) I think I would be a little miffed.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes that right. However I have been to some A&D nights where people seemed to be mingling much more freely without there partners. Actually I am sure on hose nights there were a number of single guys walking around... Well they came with someone but they had obviously parted ways for what ever reason. I enjoy those nights. The nights where it's all couples who stick together... Are just not as much fun.
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RHP User
12 years ago
So what you? Are you always "supposed" to play as a couple? Surely not? The whole purpose is to swing and swap isn't it? I have has wives come up to me and say I was welcome to their husbands before. Sometimes one is in a more frisky mood than the other... So what's the harm?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry about the typos. 😳
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RHP User
12 years ago
Me thinks you need an orgasm, you're losing your touch hehe. I agree that people that aren't actual couples go and are happy to split up. Fun indeed. But if I were really a couple, I'm not sure how I'd feel. Guess I've never tried it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't think there is any harm in asking a man if he is allowed to play on his own if you have built up a bit of a flirting thing. To be honest it seems like it is usually the women/wife that seems to do most of the talking for their men. Do you get that impression too?
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mikesplace01
12 years ago
I think it's a great question.......ladies how would or do u feel?..... As the male half of a couple, whose wife is very attractive & receives a lot of attention from males & females & who have been in the scene for a while now.....I have gotten used to her been hit on ( for want of a better term) a lot & take it as a complement.I often wonder how she would react if the shoe was on the other foot. I'd like to think that the jolly green giant wouldn't appear......what do the ladies think?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Meeka not all couples attending swinger's are there to play on their own, some are curious and want to see how things work and isn't the idea of swinging to play with others while your partner watches or participates. Further more most new couples are testing the waters and are not ready for the full swap from my experience.
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luvsilver
12 years ago
Wouldn't bother me in the slightest... I would then immediately make a b-line for the well defined younger drop dead georgeous single guy over in the far corner....:) Mrs. Luvsilver
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N4November
12 years ago
In my previous unicorn days, I would be that single girl looking at all those delicious husbands and certainly felt that there were strict rules enforced. No individual hedonistic pursuits, this was a tag team sport! But it depends on the venue, group or the state you are playing in. In my experience, it's the QLDers who know and love to party hard!! The hubby's actively go in their own direction as much as their wives. The are fantastic hosts and were more than happy to let me sleep in the middle of the marital bed ;) So if a party doesn't do it for you, try a another or even better than that, host your own party!!! I've done that as well and the memories haven't faded!! Hope I get an invite if you do!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
If the day ever comes that we go to a swingers together (doubtful) I would wantgroup sex with my partner...not wish him well for the night. But that would be our choice.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
To roam, touch and enjoy as much as I do, nobody has to ask my permission he is his own person, we've discussed all our little rules and this should automatically be done with couples before you even walk in. I have met a few couples that if the girl can't have fun then the guy can't either, I personally can't work out why. For single girls CC had many many fine looking young men there last night. However have to say couples only night we both find it is a little harder to separate, I guess because no guys are allowed to walk around alone.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Most couples want to experience the sights and sounds and pleasures WITH their partner not be having a drink or smoke whilst one plays and one socialises. Looking at your partner whilst they are with someone else adds to the hotness of it all. For us the main thing has always been the FF interaction. Seems you are very generally speaking Meeka about the women doing all the talking for the guys. I'm sure most males are big enough and ugly enough to speak for themselves. It's not something we've ever entertained, because the sexiness of all of this is being there for to watch and experience it
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RHP User
12 years ago
Don't forget the honest guy there alone ? Not all man go to just fuk silly n make fools of them selves? Maybe this is why a lot of couples stick together ?? Because of the guys out there that well simply fuk it all up for the honest man that are there to play but play with respect and personal rules of each person that attends ? Just a thought is all
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RHP User
12 years ago
In all honesty I'd be ok with it....as it's about our individual journey as much as it is about us as a couple. And let's face it, I would know that they're coming home to our bed......which is what I love about swingers clubs :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
To be honest I thought that rule was because they don't want men, whether single or married, walking around on their own being pushy and a nuisance. Sometimes you got to slap their arm away more than once!! What is with that?
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ikknowitsnaughty
12 years ago
Nothing worse than going to a club with your lady to relax and have a good night out and you spend half your time ....telling countless stray guys to F off who can't take the hint the first time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Haha, who wouldn't want a good man. I know there are a few good reasons. 1. Licensing, 2. What the business is rated as, e.g. Swingers club, couples club or brothel and 3. The environment changes when single guys come in and unfortunately there are those few that 'expect' to get some action not the recognised "no guarantee". But yeah last night, which is the. If hit they let single guys in, even after saying no there were some gropers always hoping (sometimes a little to pushy) for more.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I completely understand that, I am the same when I go with my lover. Don't have an issue with that, to me there is no harm in asking. You normally do don't you? You ask what are you into or what are you here for, etc as people go for different reasons. By the way I find some women just as aggressive and pushy and not wanting to take no for an answer. Some not all.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I beg to differ, I am not convinced most couples always want to play together all the time at all. Lots of couples split up at some point of the night. As for men being big and ugly enough, I don't know, as a single woman most of the time my experience is that the women are the ones who are most likely to initiate conversation or are free with their flirting, a lot more than the men. Maybe they just don't want to upset their wife? This is why I asked my question. Is it against the "etiquette" for a single woman to approach someone's husband?
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RHP User
12 years ago
When ever a couple have a Barney at the club isn't it usually because the man has given too much attention to other females and neglected the wife? I have only seen a few arguments so I am no expert, but it appeared this way to me. What do you all think?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am basing my info on Couples Club in Sydney by the way. I have been to other large orgies and parties where couples almost split up the minute they walk in the door and it appears that they are both "free" to peruse people.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I honestly believe that arguments between couples are based solely around them not being honest with each other about their expectations and fears. I could see a few first timers having that problem. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
You know I've watched numerous times. Actually I'd love to go back to CC, for that very vouyeristic reason. There's something really beautiful about seeing the pleasure on everyone's faces, be it as a result of them enjoying their partner or just enjoying someone. AND..... May I add, I do like the atmosphere at CC. It's cruisy, relaxing, and just like hanging out at the pub with mates. Ok.....advertisement over :p- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have you been back? Because the night we were there was a very quiet night with only a few people. And it shouldn't feel like having a beer with your mates at the pub either, should feel sexy!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I see you have watched numerous times.. Well I don't know what you saw on those other nights but you should go on A&D night if you haven't been before. That will rock your voyeuristic socks off. Lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
And...... I have sexy mates :p- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I completely understand that, I am the same when I go with my lover. Don't have an issue with that, to me there is no harm in asking. You normally do don't you? You ask what are you into or what are you here for, etc as people go for different reasons. By the way I find some women just as aggressive and pushy and not wanting to take no for an answer. Some not all. I went to my first evening to CC with a gf. I seemed to get little attention and had to tell one woman no, quite firmly and then another felt it ok to come up behind me and start groping at me...who again got a no....but then I was laughed at...my oh my
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'To be honest it seems like it is usually the women/wife that seems to do most of the talking for their men. Do you get that impression too? I think they feel single girls especially feel more at ease when the woman approaches her. And they are probaly right. As for myself, I'd prefer the man to come over and talk to me. I'm more easily attracted to women then men, so I need to know if I'm interested in the guy before anything else. Quoting 'FourHands' I went to my first evening to CC with a gf. I seemed to get little attention and had to tell one woman no, quite firmly and then another felt it ok to come up behind me and start groping at me...who again got a no....but then I was laughed at...my oh my Same. I went with a male friend and were we kissing and touching, when I suddenly realised the hand between my legs belonged to a woman whom I'd already told "No, thank you". And they say the men can be disrespectful.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'When ever a couple have a Barney at the club isn't it usually because the man has given too much attention to other females and neglected the wife? I have only seen a few arguments so I am no expert, but it appeared this way to me. What do you all think? Yes, and I agree with Sirlurk that different expectations and lack of honesty between a couple have a lot to do with it. Some men seem to only take their wife because they couldn't get in otherwise. I've also seen women who were obviously talked into it, and who reacted afraid when approached by anyone. I advised a young girl once to be honest and tell her boyfriend she did not want to be there at all. At one point she looked close to tears. Not sure if she told him though.
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