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They Left us a bit confused :(

October 29 2017

So....we meet a couple that arrived for a vacation for a Long period of time.. We had great bond between the kids and couples , few fun families meetings. On our last week together , we went for a couples date (first time that we as couples went out) , few drinks מן the Bar few close dances , then - they suggested we go for a strip bar... and had a fun time We r just opening up to this world and it left us a bit confused... asking ourself if we didn’t know to read the signs?😦 still trying to learn the rules, Help us understand the written and unwritten signs. What should we understand from that behaviour? What would you do instead ? Thanks - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

after you need it! Little rock really - don't overthink it.

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RHP User

8 years ago

Perhaps they did not know what they wanted and were stalling untill you guys closed the deal. I this gizz bizz, males ,females and couples are very unpredictable. No harm at all. One step backwards and 2 forward. Keep on trying, perhaps it did not work out, these things happen without explanation sometimes🤓 Anyway sometimes rejection is awesome, because then you know exactly where you stand and can move from a ex adventure to a next adventure. Be positive Your Pal Swinga,

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RHP User

8 years ago

OUCH!!! what a horrible think to have to experience as newbies. Sadly the rules, communication and expectations can be all a bit different for everybody. Try not to over think this. Maybe if your kids were all playing and family time happened maybe you were "friend zoned" I am just taking a stab in the dark for your sake. I feel for you that you are left with questions and uncertainty so early in your journey. But to quote @swingalingson Anyway sometimes rejection is awesome, because then you know exactly where you stand and can move from a ex adventure to a next adventure. Be positive There are an amazing experiences and journey out there for you and the right people come into your circle :) Don't over think it :) Sending you amazing times ahead, Annie x

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RHP User

8 years ago

I would think asking you to go to a strip bar was some kind of sign, well at the very least they're horny enough to want to do that. Whether that means they wanted to play with you, as opposed to finding others or just enjoying that kind of entertainment, who knows really. Trouble with approaching friends is if it doesn't go to plan, could be the end of the friendship. If you value them as friends, and respect the friendships your kids may have started, just bring it up in conversation over drinks next time you're out with them. I'm open about my life so easily flow into that kind of conversation. I understand it's not so easy for everyone, but maybe throw in a comment about online swinging and see how they react?

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HotNightsGC

8 years ago

Try not to overthink it too much. It’s all part of the journey. It’s not particularly nice when things don’t flow well and not much eventuates, But it happens so try to find a positive from the experience. I don’t think there’s any real set of rules when it comes adult interaction as everyone is so different. The more people you add to the equation, the more difficult it can be to find people you really click with straight away. But it’s part of the fun. Enjoy it 👍🏻 - Posted from rhpmobile

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FredAndGinger2

8 years ago

We've been in this position more than a few times, on both sides of these scenarios. There's many reasons why a couple may not be ready to progress - nerves, one person in the other couple not ready, the 4 way connection/dynamic isn't working, and so on. It takes time to build up the confidence as a couple to progress the night. Try asking some questions to test and move the night forward: We're really comfortable and we're having a great night .. how do you feel about moving the night on? .. should we buy a bottle of something and get a hotel room? .. want to touch or kiss? .. want to swap seats and get a little more intimate? - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

I'm actually confused about how you got to meet these people. I thought you meant RL friends you had made because you mentioned kids and long holiday etc. Did you however mean these were swinging couples ie you met with open intent. Can you clarify that?

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boobsandbusted

8 years ago

i think they weren't sure , or something was not adding up ,valued your friendship ,and enjoyed your company ,erred on the side of caution and placed you in the friendship zone ,but it's tough cos when you don't know, all sorts of stuff play over in your heads ,and it's all normally wrong to actually what happened and why best of luck in your future dates mr b - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

They were just testing the waters to see if you wanted to take it further by upping the stakes and going to strip club. Maybe, because hindsight (and confidence) is a wonderful thing, they were waiting for you to make the next move to show you were all on the same page. I don’t think you were friend zoned, just a little miscommunication of sorts. - Posted from rhpmobile

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boobsandbusted

8 years ago

when i said friendzoned ,i ment for now or at the time ,leaving it open to to continue again and upping the stakes another time ,good platform to start off from. if the last time you caught up was an outing at a strip club plenty of opatunity to have good conversations and let them know how you feel or felt about them - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

Surprised from the wide reaction and helpful tips we learned from your experience. It gave us some clue where we are going from here , thank you all:) - Posted from rhpmobile

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They Left us a bit confused :(

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