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Tips for swinging virgins
January 29 2016
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
We would not recommend going to a club or party where you don't know anyone, as they can be very full on at times. Perhaps start with something more low key and intimate , like with another couple or even a single woman or man . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well I would probably recommend a party over a club. Just my experience. Mainly because Ive been to partys on my own and was made to feel comfortable and its a little more intimate socially, so you cant help but chat with most people. large venues, a few people seem to stick in certain groups of friends I have found personally. But a venue would be recommended if you just want to socialise and meet people, but not play,the first time. Eitherway, contact a few clubs and ask about newbies. Some have certain nights for first timers. Its all pretty much the same in my opinion. Keep an eye on the events section.
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RHP User
10 years ago
And you have a whole range of options from getting in touch with couple from here and having a meeting and "soft" swing to going to one of parties you can find on here and ripping your clothes off and having a gang bang. You need to decide how far and fast you want to go. There is a whole range of options from just watching either with a like minded couple or at a party or club or jumping right into a full on swap. Rhp is definitely a good place to suss out your options. Or a sexy young woman like you would have no trouble in getting me to join you for a threesome for a gentle introduction. Oh and with a post like that expect to be flooded with tons of requests from dirty old perves like me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
First step I think would be to get comfortable with group play, but by you own design. I wouldn't recommend parties or clubs until you're first comfortable with A. Being naked in front of other people B. Having sex in front of other people. Have you been to a nude beach. If not, go and first get comfortable being in your naked form I'm front of people. You may be further advanced or already confident with that, not meaning to talk down to you, but a larger group of people might be a bit scary to throw yourself straight into. I agree some threesome meets would be a better way to go first and see how you then feel to move on further. From my experience, which is limited compared to many on here, is that it escalates fast. Once you get a taste lol it's full steam ahead. End of the day, don't ever feel like you have to participate if you're not fully wanting to do that. You have control of that, no means no, even for a one-on-one, walk away if you're not into the person/people. We do it for fun, if it's not fun, leave, I've done that quite a few times and glad I did. Have fun, exciting times ahead 😉
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RHP User
10 years ago
Being still a newbie myself would def agree with starting slowly and not rushing into the deep end too quickly. We went to a club for our first time and was mostly just to look. Had a great time and as we were just looking there was. I expectations other than to chat with other people, immerse yourself in the sexy environment and if the mood took us have sexy with each other and not others. Was a great night :-). The other big thing is communicate lots and then communicate some more. Cheers, W.
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boobsandbusted
10 years ago
we did the nudest beach first ,for a nakedness tester ,enjoyed that ,felt ok with people looking and talking to us ,then went to a couples club ,talked to some people ,then went out in the open ,(we didnt like the little rooms)at the shed ,had a play with each other ,was amazed ,how easy it was ,to know people were watching ,be nervous but turned on ,but at the same time block them out ,lol.
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RHP User
10 years ago
What has been said about clubs in the above posts is solid, sensible advice.If you are considering mfm, ffm or another couple, the whole vetting process is pretty straight forward. Just be aware of the photo hunter and gatherer, you'll know who they are because the second message will be "can I see your other pg", its a terrible attitude. Also use KIK for your messenger service as it doesn't reveal your number. Location is important, for the first time I would suggest neutral ground ie; a hotel, everyone splits the cost 50/50, if someone refuses then move on, you don't want to hook up with a cheapskate right? For us there are only 2 rules, "no" means no, and safe sex. Try to avoid expectations and scripting the "meet" in your head, the best approach is a free flowing one. We always meet the +1 or couple in the hotel bar or somewhere close by to put everyone at ease. Forget about safe words, you are playing with adults, if you have had enough of whatever it is then just say..."hey I need a break". For us its a ton of adult fun that's achieved through being compatible with the "extras", finding someone who is compatible is the hardest part, the rest is easy.
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Andremmo
10 years ago
As Summer said, there is safety in numbers. IMO, if you start with a threesome or couple then there will be a lot more pressure on you to continue as there is no-one else the other participants can play with. Big events such as Saints and Sinners provide a great starting point. It is basically a big nightclub with risque clothing and you can choose to dance, chat, watch and/or participate freely. The larger parties for couples only are also good as you don't need to participate with others if you choose not to. It helps to be comfortable naked in public first but in reality, when others are wearing far less it is hard to avoid joining in. Parties that welcome single guys are another story altogether. Best to save those until you are really comfortable with being in the limelight.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You arent expected to play in front of a crowd.There are private areas. All venues and majority of private parties have a closed room. That means if the door iis closed, you dont go in. Some people choose to play that way, then you also have open rooms where you can play and people can walk in and watch or if you want, you can ask if they want to join you. So there is no expectations to play or be naked in front of others if you dont want to.( unless its spacifically advertised eg: dress down at 9pm. Which means clothes come off and its sexy lingere or nekid) I prefer closed rooms a lot of the time myself. It can get off putting if you are getting into the moment with select people and then have others constantly interupting and asking if they can join in. Unless you are into the orgy scene. But I do like to watch the people that like being watched.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'd recommend a club personally. I found it to be a no-pressure environment, and as someone who isn't particularly comfortable with being naked in front of people, the option walk around in some lingerie with the subdued lighting worked for me. I doubt I'd ever go naked ons nude beach - it's just not my thing. No judgement at all if it's yours, but I wouldn't suggest that as an "ease you into it" option for everyone. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
we'd suggest either a club or party. And there is no rule which says you have to play at a club. If you strike up a conversation with a couple at a club but would be more interested playing elsewhere there is nothing stopping you leaving together. Same could be said of meet n greets. Ithink if you rely on meeting a couple or +1 straight off the bat in a hotel or the like you may place undue pressure on the whole situation.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Think about the kind of situations you'd be most comfortable meeting someone if you were both single and just apply that to yourselves as a couple. Some people are happy to hook up in clubs, others have better luck at private parties and others prefer to meet online first and see if there is a connection and if so meet up in person. So for us, we went to a club first up and really didn't like it much at all. Thankfully we didn't give up and tried meeting people on here instead. That worked a treat and through some of them we've now met others, been invited to parties where we at least knew a few people and met even more amazing people. So how did we meet each other? We met online...
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RHP User
10 years ago
We went to a couples club and for us we found it very sleazy and didn't feel at all comfortable, so we just up and left , talk about it for a few days , also tryed a couple party but soon work out the people at this party were to full on for us , so now we are only meeting 1+1 couples that we are happy and feel we are safe and comfortable with hope to play with our new friends very soon - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Going to my first event tomorrow night. So excited and scared all at once!
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RHP User
10 years ago
... in one of those sleazy late-night chat line commercials? ''Call me... call me now''. Hey it's worth a try and I don't have a criminal record... well, they were all misdemeanours as the more I miss da' meaner I get. I'm only human.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks for posting this. Myself and my partner are new to this too and wanti g to add a bit extra after 15 years. Not sure where to start.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' " I like large parties - they're so intimate. At small parties there isn't any privacy. " I love that line, I have an mp3 of Elizabeth Debicki saying that on my phone (Gatsby soundtrack). +1 vote for clubs - no pressure to play, lots of different people, and you can leave at any time without worrying you'll offend or waste someone else's time if it isn't your thing. Most clubs have a newbie night with a tour and an explanation of what to expect/how things work.
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RHP User
10 years ago
you are right
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RHP User
9 years ago
1. Communicate with your partner about what you both want & rules if any.2. Don't take it to seriously, it is after all all about having fun.3. Don't trust anyone when it comes to unprotected sex, play safe.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks for all the comments, we too are virgins and trying to work out the best way, I'm a little overweight so feeling very self conscious about the club rules of dress down! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi everyone,We are really new to this as well, and in Adelaide it doesn't seem like we have many options anyway.Can anyone please provide any info about events in Adelaide? I know there is an events section in this site, but it doesn't seem to have anything in SA right now.We are considering BoHo parties, can anyone provide any info about those events? Thanks
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