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What's in a name ?
December 10 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
I changed my surname when married at 23, if I had realised what a huge drama it was, I'd have kept my own name. Really just the legal hoopla one has to jump through. So nope I plan on being Mrs Smith now forever lol GL
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi Meeka...new to this so be kind..lol.. If i married would i take his name...you betcha...if you had my last name you would want to change it to. No one gets it right. Have friends who have married and kept theirs and added his. Another person I knew ..male took his wifes name and dumped his..and was happy to do it.. guess it comes down to personal choice now a days ..not like back when it was automatic the wife took hubbies name... Have read your posts in here and have enjoyed your comments...keep it up... blondeabbie1
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RHP User
15 years ago
Interesting thought, Meeka...and I am sure I burned a few bridges on the other thread so maybe I can redeem myself here. | I really wouldn't care at all...and it makes life easier, to just keep your own name. I liked you enough to commit to you when you were Charlize Theron so why change it? Chasing up all the details and name changes is about as much fun as moving overseas. Some say what about the kids..but with the divorce rate at epidemic levels, I am only guessing that half the kids at school may just have parents with different names. And as for belonging or some sign of ownership...a name change is not really going to matter. | The exception would be if it was a mental trigger and somewhat offensive like your ex-husband's last name that we all love to hate...or if it sounded really silly and I could not say it with a straight face. | Your last name isn't Peekaboo...is it?
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RHP User
15 years ago
It felt like a really big thing for me to share my name with another person... to ask them to take it as their own name... and when that wasnt honored it then felt like my name had been disrespected. I guess in a lot of ways I feel like my name is a statement of the things that I believe in. A word that encapulated the thoughts and ideas I hold about the world and the values I have in how I live my life.does that matter?you bet.LS
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sometimes you would have to wonder the wisdom of changing name. Yes history dictates that the woman change name but I have worked with some girls over the years that ended up with some prety interesting name changes. One went from her name of Rainbottom to Weatherhead. Another went from Brown to Green (her name was Theresa) Another had surname Dick and married a fella named Biggin. Worked with a girl first name Robyn and she married a bloke with surname of Banks. Made for some one liners at the reception. I have seen plenty of these over the years. So I guess one could be excused if the new name sort of worked out a little weird.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Now IF (and i is a mighty big if at that) I ever did decide to get married this would be one tricky question for me. I can see both sides of the arguement here. It is convention yes and we no longer need to stick by convention. For a guy I cna imagine that this could become one of those emotional issues 'If I am god enough to marry, I am good enough to for you to take my name" type of thoughts. My name has stood me in good stead all my life. It is part of who I am. I can not ever imagine being Mrs McKackie-Ak or some such thing. There is also the time and trouble involved in changing all those damn cards, liscences, accounts the whole enchillada. Knowing my marriage only has a 50% chance offailure and then I would have to change them all back again.
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RHP User
15 years ago
i dont see why women are given all these choices in the first place. they should just do as they're damn well told. no questions. no backchat. a mans word is law, and any woman who contravenes that is a disgrace to her gender.
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RHP User
15 years ago
either way, i'm wearing a man's name - my father's, or my husband's. i have kept my ex-husband's last name, simply because my career really took off during the time that i was married. and it's quite a cool name. and it's almost like a "souvenir". but i quite dig how they do it in Iceland, for example. they don't really have surnames as such - if your dad is John, your last name becomes "Johnsson". HOWEVER there is also the choice to be named after your mum. so if my mum's name were Bjork, my last name might be "Bjorksdottir". it's a little bit off-topic, but then, i'm a little bit drunk. and it's nice to see that not everyone does things the same way in the world.
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RHP User
15 years ago
But then being half Scottish I went with the old tradition of keeping my clan name despite the fact that it can be spelled about 5 different ways and generally is!! And as Fionabee pointed out, who wants to change their licenses and cards? How do you change a signature you have used for the last 30 years!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'blondeabbie1' Hi Meeka...new to this so be kind..lol.. Have read your posts in here and have enjoyed your comments...keep it up... blondeabbie1 I an always kind arent I??? xx Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yes I would change mine - I think - but not if it was a weird or horrible name. My sisters children have all taken her last name - first time I had heard of that but I think it may be becoming more common now. xxx Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
There was a story saying that more than 50 women have become Mary Christmas after their wedding.....lol They listed a few other fun ones that became theirs when the women took on their husbands surname: Holly Oakes Eileen Dover Hazel Nutt Queenie King Mona Lott Jean Pool
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RHP User
15 years ago
true 'Theone" - she should do as she is told... and in your case, im sure that she would be too scared to do other wise...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'theone1983'i dont see why women are given all these choices in the first place. they should just do as they're damn well told. no questions. no backchat. a mans word is law, and any woman who contravenes that is a disgrace to her gender. you are ducking for cover right???? As for my name - I have my mothers name as does my brother (daddy dear chose not to stick around) and I like it...ok it can get tiresome spelling both my first and last names to people ALL the time (thanks Mum) but it is doing me just fine......would I change it????? I have a practical head (Love honour and cherish thread again) and I too wonder about all the name changing, card replacements and the like BUT that being said I have replaced my cards etc so many times now - habit of putting my wallet down and leaving it behind - that it probably wouldnt phase me all that much I have it down to a fine art already... Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'theone1983'i dont see why women are given all these choices in the first place. they should just do as they're damn well told. no questions. no backchat. a mans word is law, and any woman who contravenes that is a disgrace to her gender. Yes Mastah Suh! Heading right on down to lick those boots!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'theone1983' i dont see why women are given all these choices in the first place. they should just do as they're damn well told. no questions. no backchat. a mans word is law, and any woman who contravenes that is a disgrace to her gender. You, Sirrah, are a both a cultural throwback to a bygone era and an embarrassment to common decency and manners. Begone with your feeble attempt at humor. The small percentile of trolls such as yourself wonder why others detest conversing with them and I put forward your post as Exhibit A to be judged accordingly. Unfortunately, finding a jury of your peers might verge on the near side of impossible.As for the question at hand? I will leave that entirely within the hands of my beloved. I would be honored if she took my name but understand if she wold not. A union of any sort should mean more than a simple change of names.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting QLH454You, Sirrah, are a both a cultural throwback to a bygone era and an embarrassment to common decency and manners. Begone with your feeble attempt at humor. The small percentile of trolls such as yourself wonder why others detest conversing with them and I put forward your post as Exhibit A to be judged accordingly. Unfortunately, finding a jury of your peers might verge on the near side of impossible.youch, haha. an eloquent and scathing rebuttal, love it. i was expecting some of the ladies to step on my cubes with exactly that kind of flair. im sure they are chanting, 'you go girl' for ur benefit right now.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'LeoSteve' It felt like a really big thing for me to share my name with another person... to ask them to take it as their own name... and when that wasnt honored it then felt like my name had been disrespected. I guess in a lot of ways I feel like my name is a statement of the things that I believe in. A word that encapulated the thoughts and ideas I hold about the world and the values I have in how I live my life. Might she not feel the same way about her name? My ex took mine because I asked her to, but she didn't want to and in hindsight, I don't think I should have have cared so much.When I was young and working in a large factory, we sometimes used the lunch room payphone to call the very pretty receptionist in the front office and ask if she could page Mike Hunt over the PA. She must have wondered about Mike - he never picked up. At 25 cents, it was cheap amusement for we assembly line workers though...
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Tart_Du_Jour
15 years ago
In a lot of places it's common place and traditional for a woman to retain their maiden name when they get married. So I am not sure what respect has to do with it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Snowshoe' Quoting 'LeoSteve' It felt like a really big thing for me to share my name with another person... to ask them to take it as their own name... and when that wasnt honored it then felt like my name had been disrespected. I guess in a lot of ways I feel like my name is a statement of the things that I believe in. A word that encapulated the thoughts and ideas I hold about the world and the values I have in how I live my life. Might she not feel the same way about her name? My ex took mine because I asked her to, but she didn't want to and in hindsight, I don't think I should have have cared so much.When I was young and working in a large factory, we sometimes used the lunch room payphone to call the very pretty receptionist in the front office and ask if she could page Mike Hunt over the PA. She must have wondered about Mike - he never picked up. At 25 cents, it was cheap amusement for we assembly line workers though... Yeah I was aware of that and asked on a seperate occasion to my proposal if she would do the honor of taking my name... It seemed like the respectful thing to do... she agreed immediately...LS
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RHP User
15 years ago
marriage and changing names for no reason.. is another outdated religious idea.. a couples bond comes from the heart and mind...not from waht the church said 100's of years ago...zzz I do like the idea of my son carrying on my family name thou...hmm so a tough one... Bernie butwhisker
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RHP User
15 years ago
and is seriously conssidering changing names to Gaylord Focker..................................
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'AdventureTime' marriage and changing names for no reason.. is another outdated religious idea.. a couples bond comes from the heart and mind...not from waht the church said 100's of years ago...zzz I do like the idea of my son carrying on my family name thou...hmm so a tough one... Bernie butwhisker I think maybe its gone beyond the religious model.... marriage as we know it these days is a construct of religion too but the social value is greater than the religious implication. I think name taking is a similar thing... its a symbol of unification and an immediate and obvious way for people who dont maybe know you but who do interact with you to understand that there is a serious and enduring relationship between you... I dont really like the religious aspect of it, in that sense - the bond is a human one, not a religious one. So in that sense I guess its like a public proclamation that the relationship you share is the primary one in your life.LS
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RHP User
15 years ago
one of my gal pals is getting married in the new year and she has her ex's surname and is known professionally with it. She ha decided to keep her ex's surname and not take on her hubbie to be name. I dont know him all that well and only getting her side... but from what it seems he is not 100% cool with it... seems he wouldn't mind so much if it was her maiden name... but he not over the moon about her keeping the ex's name... what are your thoughts?????
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'QLH454' Quoting 'theone1983' i dont see why women are given all these choices in the first place. they should just do as they're damn well told. no questions. no backchat. a mans word is law, and any woman who contravenes that is a disgrace to her gender. You, Sirrah, are a both a cultural throwback to a bygone era and an embarrassment to common decency and manners. Begone with your feeble attempt at humor. The small percentile of trolls such as yourself wonder why others detest conversing with them and I put forward your post as Exhibit A to be judged accordingly. Unfortunately, finding a jury of your peers might verge on the near side of impossible.As for the question at hand? I will leave that entirely within the hands of my beloved. I would be honored if she took my name but understand if she wold not. A union of any sort should mean more than a simple change of names. Hoo-rah QLH454 - well said!!!! do you mean bygone eras as in Neanderthal???
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RHP User
15 years ago
I understand the offering and taking of your partners name is a huge symbol, but sometimes there are other considerations when it comes to honour... ie my family has had a long line of single sons, and I am the last of my family line.... its not just that, but my maiden name is my name - the name I was born with, my identity for my whole life so far... its a hard decision.
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RHP User
15 years ago
That is the point, MissSuzi. It should not be a hard decision at all. Yes, we are a multi-cultural society, thrown together into a melting pot to blend our cultures and traditions but for some, it is these traditions that define "Family". Now, there are some traditions that others will not agree with. That is your right in our society but, and I'm sure that a lot of members might agree, family comes first. I, myself, am full blooded Spanish and our identity, our very selves, are defined by "Family" but in saying that, I bow to my home and understand if my intended does not want to take my name so be it. Michael (...or Miguel, if you prefer). xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'aniceone71' one of my gal pals is getting married in the new year and she has her ex's surname and is known professionally with it. She ha decided to keep her ex's surname and not take on her hubbie to be name. I dont know him all that well and only getting her side... but from what it seems he is not 100% cool with it... seems he wouldn't mind so much if it was her maiden name... but he not over the moon about her keeping the ex's name... what are your thoughts????? i took my exhusbands name and when we split i was just as quick to get rid of it and take my maiden name back...it is after all the name i was born with its me, its who i am i had twin friends as a teen and they had the same name as their mum and when we were 15 the twins mum gave birth to a baby who she gave her last name too,,,it wasnt til a few years back that i was talking to this "baby" and she was telling me she couldnt wait to get married and get rid of another mans name, i asked her what she meant by that and it turns out that mum was married to the twins dad but when she split with him she kept his name so that her and her girls all had the same last name but then when she had her "baby" to another man the "baby" got the last name of a man she doesnt even know...as she said if it was her mothers maiden name she would understand but she got some strange mans name just for her mothers conveniance...she wasnt happy with that as an adult so i kinda get where your friends hubby to be is coming from...why would you want your wife to have the name of another man, i wouldnt be happy with that...maybe your friend could comprimise and hyphenate lol roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
and roxy thanks for the response.. as we get 'older' the funny little thinks crop up.. something we would never consider to be an issue when younger... and they still have time to discuss... and looking forward to the frivolous wedding (cheeky shot!) all good though
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RHP User
15 years ago
that pic looks sexy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'aniceone71'that pic looks sexy This is definately one of my favourite roxy pics but I have a weakness for her boobs too Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
It is lovely to see your gorgeous face again Roxy. I quite like the car...took me back to my youth but...I do like this one better.
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RHP User
15 years ago
when I asked Michelle if she would marry me (after asking her parents of course), she immediately began to practice her signature using my surname. i took this as a compliment. we did discuss just adding a hyphen, but it didn't look or sound right. I guess it was made easier by virtue of the fact that she was shedding her last surname, that of her ex husband, and was doing so with pleasure as he was an ass who had cheated on her repeatedly (they meant nothing I'm sure). each time she signs her name she tells me she gets a little buzz. I really cant say how pleased that makes me. we are mr and mrs. not just a couple with different names. people associate us not just by sight, but by name now. I think its an honor and a privilege to share my name.
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RHP User
15 years ago
These Pups now share their last name. I was open to whatever Mrs Pup wanted to do and it was a big decision for her as she had some standing in her profession but she chose to share my name (even though I kinda like her maiden name, it's short and sweet). We both enjoy sharing a family name as we're just that, a family. Would I have changed my name? I did offer but as the last of my ilk she thought that unwise. I think each to their own choice but the only thing I see as rather inconvenient with not sharing a surname is the horribly long hyphenated names your kids end up with and what about if your kid marries another hyphenated soul, could get awfully messy! Oh and it makes it much easier to pick up each others stuff from the post office although I'm always amazed if she's tackling Telstra or the like over the phone and they ask to speak to me to give her permission to handle the account - like she doesn't know all the answers to their identity questions, just slightly more high pitched voice!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' Interesting thought, Meeka...and I am sure I burned a few bridges on the other thread so maybe I can redeem myself here. | I really wouldn't care at all...and it makes life easier, to just keep your own name. I liked you enough to commit to you when you were Charlize Theron so why change it? Chasing up all the details and name changes is about as much fun as moving overseas. Some say what about the kids..but with the divorce rate at epidemic levels, I am only guessing that half the kids at school may just have parents with different names. And as for belonging or some sign of ownership...a name change is not really going to matter. | The exception would be if it was a mental trigger and somewhat offensive like your ex-husband's last name that we all love to hate...or if it sounded really silly and I could not say it with a straight face. | Your last name isn't Peekaboo...is it? half the kids in school now dont even know their true parents and very often have a diferent father or mother to their siblings Andy
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RHP User
15 years ago
its good to come back out from behind the car lol....i really need one like GJs but i cant find a sucker to take one of my naked arse under the car bonet hahaha now if we can just get one of aniceone, nice chest, arse mmmm a nice arse shot would be great hehehe...i have a camera and am willing to use it hehe yes Focus you have fondled me more than any man ever will lol Fionabee i looove my car it brings back some great memories from my childhood too ;-) when i had kids i gave them their dads name so me and the kids have different names...i guess because when i was younger my mum married again and she and my youngest bro had one name and me and my other bro had another so to me it was natural for us all to be different but then with what the pups are saying...my nan had 3 sons and out of those 3 sons only 3 grandsons where born which in turn have had all girls but 1 so its all up to him now to carry on the family name..no pressure at all there lol roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
love the roxxy pic so its another vote but a roxxy sexy face with her car too now there is something to lust over it must be the stormy season gets me thinking such naughty things Andy xxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
to put a pic up!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'aniceone71'to put a pic up! come on show us something...please..... Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'aniceone71'to put a pic up! Just s little hint of c...c...c...c...c...chest
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'hotqld45' I tried answering the wives id questions to sort our credit cards, the bank tried to cancell them they said security was breached! Because her husband knew the answers including passwords! A male hateing foreign lesbian female on the banks side! Her time should be spent learning to speak Australian! Society is way over regulated!
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