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Char2001

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What’s up with rhp men leading women on / making empty promises???

April 11 2026

why do men flake

I’ve had a few potential play meetings that had fallen through and ended up wasting my time :( For instance, I had clearly stated from the start that I’d be available on this day/time with the other party clearly agreeing to it. In between more back-and-forth messaging that buildup anticipation…when it came close to the date, out of the sudden they share that everything’s ready for tonight/some other time as if it was the agreed planned time. Where’s the reading comprehension??? Or the other time when full discussions had been shared including their home address + a picture of the property and expected time/date. I show up to an empty house that’s clearly got no one in it, no car in the driveway, no lights on the veranda. Waited 20mins outside like an idiot while messaging them again to clarify (definitely was at the correct address after cross-checking the mailbox + matching the house to the picture given) but was ghosted the entire time. When I drove off - they suddenly messaged and asked where I am and that I was at the wrong address! So disappointed with all these wasted time and false expectations and scams :(

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  • Inflation

    Inflation

    2 months ago

    Wow, I can't believe people go to these extraordinary lengths just to flake. I can only imagine the effort you put in, only to be disappointed. Very disheartening. Im sorry you've had these crapy experiences.

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  • peter196921

    peter196921

    2 months ago

    I think the best thing to do is have a look at there profile and see if they have any validations from someone they have meet, the second one, let’s chat as I won’t stand you up 🥰,

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  • Arfur_Foulksake

    Arfur_Foulksake

    2 months ago

    Has happened to me too so it’s not just men

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  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    2 months ago

    I'd be frusted too! That’s such a let down, especially after making the effort to show up. Empty house, no car, no lights, darling that’s not a met up, that’s an opening scene of a Netflix true crime and putting you in an unsafe situation! What a nasty fuckwit! Your examples do sound like classic catfish behaviour. I’ve found a quick chat or little check-in beforehand can save a lot of guesswork and petrol. 😅 Ms Foxy PS Please always met in a public place. Stay safe. ✌️

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  • OpalRose

    OpalRose

    2 months ago

    I cannot understand your first paragraph. Never ever ever ever have a first meet at a random guys house at night. Omg that’s a red flag and potential missing persons report.

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  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    2 months ago

    What's happened to basic manners once the norm in society ? How can anyone set someone up to meet then disappear like that ? Surely says something about the sick'o anonymously hiding behind a computer screen with no intention of doing anything.. These cretins should be barred completely..

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  • JustAManNextDoor

    JustAManNextDoor

    2 months ago

    Horrid situation to be put in, but it happens more often than not, just be safe. I always like to meet first, somewhere public. Chat over coffee see if there is a connection, a nice hotel room to play in after.... plenty of options out there.

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  • seekandplay

    seekandplay

    2 months ago

    This is less about manners and more about both your online and physical safety. Girl, let’s step up the safety a notch - PLEASE. Please go and find a post we discussed a while ago about women’s safety. Please. Please. Please don’t go to a man’s house on the first meet. Or on the second meet if you still don’t have the right vibe. Hotels aren’t even ideal but safer than a house. These ‘men’ are generally fake and want your photos and then will block/ghost you - exactly what they have done to you. I’m so sorry this has happened, but so glad that house was empty in the end as that had 000 written all over it. Be safe ❤️

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  • 55SexyandSingle

    55SexyandSingle

    2 months ago

    This does not just happen on this site, I’ve also had it happen on ‘mainstream’ dating sites as well. I’m unsure as to what men get out of chatting and setting up a time and place to meet, only to not show up. Maybe it’s an ego/power trip thing, I don’t know. But as others have said OP, please take your personal safety seriously, as your situation could have ended up very differently. Safety first, always xx

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  • austeuro

    austeuro

    2 months ago

    I’m sorry to read this . But one good thing is to learn lessons put safety first and report the profile

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  • MrandMrsEss

    MrandMrsEss

    2 months ago

    This happens with males, females and couples. Also the safety aspect should be taken seriously by all of the above as well. In our early days we were put off the scene for years by an interaction with a couple. It was same room play but the woman purposely shielded my view while her partner tried to force past consent. It really shook us as we thought there would be more inherent safety meeting another couple but you never know. No matter who you are, meet in a safe place first!

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  • Finestkind16

    Finestkind16

    2 months ago

    It’s happened to us 10 or more times

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  • Jackluverboy

    Jackluverboy

    2 months ago

    Gi im available bynbo now

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  • CheekyEnglishman

    CheekyEnglishman

    2 months ago

    happens alot with women all the time. both genders in this generation arent reliable

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    2 months ago

    Not me no time waster here

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    2 months ago

    I just got stood up too and I drove all the way up from down south 🤦🏼‍♂️ we should go on a date tonight instead!!

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  • Huneypott69

    Huneypott69

    2 months ago

    Unfortunately there's a lot of catfish on here. They get off on the chase and chat but when it comes to the meet they either have "something come up" or disappear from the site and then pop up days later like nothing happened. It's frustrating cause it's time wasted that could have been spent talking to genuine guys 🙄

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  • Bangz23

    Bangz23

    2 months ago

    U went to the guys house ???

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  • BlueEyesTradie

    BlueEyesTradie

    2 months ago

    This is the bane on my existence. So .any false promises. It's immature and disrespectful. I feel you'd pain.

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  • BlueEyesTradie

    BlueEyesTradie

    2 months ago

    It's most definitely not only men that ghost or block. But I will never understand a man doing it to a woman that wants to have sex.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    2 months ago

    I remember a woman doing this to me after agreeing to meet at a very specific place. after she didn't show, I rang her and she claimed she had been and gone and I wasn't there. Except I was 15 minutes early and no show. Contacted her by phone and she arranged another meeting. After I waited in vain rang her and she, again, claimed I hadn't shown again. Told her to never contact me again after I spoke with her and she was clearly affected by some drug or another. I always wonder what the payoff for them with that particular behaviour. If I arrange to meet, I'll be there and will be early - it's just manners.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    one month ago

    OMG, I cant get a date and there are fools out there throwing dates away with gorgeous women??? Im the sort of guy who goes to (probably too much trouble) to prepare for a date, cold wine, a fruit platter (those f%$ing things dont keep ) snacks, clan towels and juice or power aide for after...etc... Sinful

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  • BadatBehaving72

    BadatBehaving72

    one month ago

    Name and shame 😂

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  • Justlooking010

    Justlooking010

    19 days ago

    I guess they got caught with the schedule with their missus. Try me baby girl, I won't waste your time. 😉

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  • Smoothp

    Smoothp

    18 days ago

    Why...do people do all that trouble for nothing. It just makes it so much harder for the genuine male or female looking for some companionship. It's just crazy!! As a male I have so much to offer but when I hear stories like this, it puts back to end of the line again 🤦 because the ladies will be even harder to make contact with!!

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