F117
Why do older guys get so upset when rejected by younger girls
November 02 2009
Comments
-
RHP User
16 years ago
Well honestly? You could surely find a way to leave out the "too old" part and help him salvage whatever remains of his shattered ego... lolz. Darn it when 36 year olds are too old.... hehe. Poor bastards.. it's the harsh reality of aging that stings.... it's not really all about being rejected by you. Gaz
-
RHP User
16 years ago
surely if an older guy contacts a younger girl, ie 41 guy says hi to a 24 gal...what does a guy think will be the answer?!!!...like WTF...even if the guy thinks he looks hot...or thinks he is a wonderful lover....or has a 24" cock that would please a mare about to run in the melb cup...pffftttttt....the likelihood of him getting anywhere near a smart, sexy, sassy, cheeky young chic would rate along the lines of...umm...err....maybe seeing a flying pig!!!!!!!!!!!!personally, i may send a message or a flirt to a young lass whose profile rings my bells and blows my whistles...rarely do they reply, but often it's with a "too old!!!!!!!" or "you don"t match what i am looking for"...or even a plain simple ignore...but hey...i expect that i'll see a flying pig first!!...but whatever happens, she's made her choice...(silly girl, lol)...so, i move on...lots of sexy, sexy women still in that big, big world...and plenty nearer my age...cheersjose...(sometimes..hehe)
-
RHP User
16 years ago
Ask any girl who's dated older men & they'll tell you they'd never date young idiots ever again! You rejected me without ever bothering to look at my profile.For all you know I could the perfect man of your dreams but you're so insecure with other shallow insecure people judging you that you reject older men invade you get kicked out of the "circle of trust" if you're 18 and the guy is 40 it's totally wrong girlfriend..oh oh..unless he's rich or famous then that's ok because we can get something out of him. Just admit you have no idea about men my age & are too insecure & shit scared to buck your social circle to find happiness. One day when you've grown up as an adult,which is what you should be now at 21,and get sick of idiots treating you like crap in your own age group..you'll regret not dating older guys who adore their younger girlfriends... If I had a beautiful girl who treated me right,was a mature adult and under 25 I'd adore her as my goddess & worship the ground she walked on....bloke young idiots who treat you like acwaljingbtrophy vagina.I was pretty shocked & depressed to see stunning girls today at the Melbourne Cup with absolute scum and letting them treat them like rubbish. If you want that then knock your socks off...if you want a man who's sick of tasting bitter rejection and will adore his 18-26yr old goddess...then start acting like a grown up confident intelligent sophisticated woman & not a little girl pretending to be a real woman and running scared when a real man tells you up front he wants YOU!!
-
playfulminx
16 years ago
This is probably something beyond your appreciation at the darling age of 21 but no one wants to be thought of as too old for anything or anyone. I think if you are indeed using the words 'too old' in your replies to guys, then it's not too surprising that they get upset. It certainly doesn't mitigate any abusiveness on their part but you could probably just say that he isn't in the age bracket that you are currently searching in. Furthermore, why bother even raising the issue of age? Just tell the guys that they've got a cool profile but they're not what you're looking for.At the end of the day, it's a matter of perspective. I can see how you wouldn't want to date someone closer to your parents' age but to suggest that someone who is 35 - 45 being too old is a bit much. You probably need to clarify that they are too old for you.
-
RHP User
16 years ago
sarahfun's profile clearly states that she's looking for unattached 18-25 year olds. Isn't that her choice? If I'm clearly looking for men in their 40s and 50s, are 25 year olds entitled to get upset because I reject them for being to young? They really shouldn't even be contacting me with serious intentions. I think it's already implied that I mean too young "for me"... Doesn't everbody here have a go at those that ignore what's written on a profile? sarahfun seems pretty clear to me. I agree with Jose, I send flirts and messages sometimes just for fun too... do not expect a reply, or if I get a reply, expect it to be just for fun as well. Whitehawk... pull up your pants... your bitterness is showing again
-
RHP User
16 years ago
Gotta say Whitehawk, i'm sure you're a very nice guy but you do seem to be on a bit of a rage today judging by your forum posts. If sarahf only wants to socialise/meet with young people then that's up to her, regardless of how wonderful a guy you may be. Would you be interested in socialising/meeting many 60 year old women? No one should be forced to have to talk to anyone, and if you feel so strongly then just consider it 'her loss' and move on.I know how girls generally like the immature arseholes when they're around our age - I was always the polite one who got called cute while the tossers got the girls, and treated them like shit. By the time they realised this it was too late, and they'd gone from being a cute, attractive girl, to a rough as arseholes, damaged goods girl, so to speak.
-
RHP User
16 years ago
I've sent quite a few emails to gals that I think look good and match my profile (or very close to it) and I've received either no response at all or a polite "thanks but you are not what I'm looking for". Fair enough I say - at least the ones that responded did so nicely. I've only had one that said "you're too old" and the I checked her profile and I had goofed - she was looking for someone up to 25 (she was 32) - so my bad. I also like to make it clear when I send a message that if I'm keen I will follow up with another if I don't hear back but then If nothing comes from the 2nd message I'll let it drop. No use becoming a bastard that hassles a girl out if she's not interested, but at the same time if she's overlooked your first email then it's worth giving a 2nd shot at it. Sarahfun - I think you could be a little more tactful in your responses - even polite :-) you never know one day you will be old too - yes it will happen... then how would you feel?
-
RHP User
16 years ago
there are young women on here who quite clearly say they are interested in older guys...30+, 40+...and then like sarahfun who says quite clearly 18-25 and unattached...so, pretty obvious...uhm, sarah, flirt and detailed email on the way...who says I CAN READ?!!!....lmaocheersJose
-
RHP User
16 years ago
We both have dear friends ranging in age from early 20's to well into the 60's and we truely enjoy their company. That said there are many 20, 30, 40, 50 ,60 year olds that seem to be of a different age to us. If lucky young sarah is a young 21 then all the old perves should leave well alone! Let her enjoy her youth and the youthful boys she prefers!
-
RHP User
16 years ago
I agree that sarahfun's profile states that she wants guys 18-25 and unattached.Yet....she also says... "My biggest turn on is watching real men playing team sports like basketball and Aussie rules."Um sorry Sarah.....but you do realise that most basketball and footy players are over 25 dont you???People are hopeful...and therefore will read things into what's written...whether that's whats written or not.But...on the other hand....some guys still wont bother to read a profile anyway...so youre always gonna get inappropriate flirts and messages. Such is life.Just my opinion...BJxxx
-
RHP User
16 years ago
I honestly can't believe some of the comments here. Sarahfun has clearly made a choice on her preferences and quite rightly gets pissed off when people clearly don't read her profile before sending the flirt or message. Yet there seems to be some here who think she is in the wrong, that she should get down and bless the dating gods they they chose to contact her! I am sure that those bagging her readily accept with glee every flirt or message they receive and never reject! NOT Whitehawk you probably aren't doing yourself any favours with your forum posts - you are coming across as someone who thinks every woman you contact should do the happy dance for glee. Lighten up, and accept the fact that not everyone here thinks the same as you.
-
RHP User
16 years ago
If anyone is interested the age difference between men and women, in lasting relationships, where the man is older averages 0-14 years. That's from Australian Social Trends, Religion and Marriage trends in defacto partnering. Does it not boil down to the same thing READ THE PROFILE. sarahfun....In answer to your question. As others have said rejection is painful. If I was silly enough to try and date someone younger than my daughter-in-law, who I adore and look upon as my own daughter, hence the conflict. Possibly I would be upset because I was stupid enough to convnce myself I had a chance. Self esteem or age related issues could cause men to get abusive.
-
RHP User
16 years ago
I personally feel that is the girl/woman's choice to choose the age and sex for that matter of her partner. We all vary in our tastes, as to what it is we desire, and if she says she is not interested, well, THEN SHE IS NOT INTERESTED ! There is no point in getting into a rage over the matter and sending abuse emails or texts, its not like thats ever going to change her mind. People just need to learn to treat other people with respect, you know, the way you like to be treated yourself. Don't take the rejection to heart so much, fair chance is, that someone of the opposite sex or same sex for that matter, has sent you a flirt or an email, and that you, yourself had no interest in this person whatsoever. We all just need to be mindful of the feelings of others and show them some respect, and treat them with a little common courtesy. You can tell someone that you aren"t interested, without crushing their feelings. Other than that, have a sensational day......................
-
RHP User
16 years ago
Its quite simple really , when ya hairs falling out along with ya teeth and ya beer belly covers ya manhood to be rejected by anyone in a dress is the last straw........anyone seen me dentures......grrrrrrr
-
RHP User
16 years ago
I'm in the 30+ age bracket technically - though I can pass for between 21-25 depending on if its been a few weeks since shaving So that makes me feel a little 'stuck' sometimes, cause I completely understand wanting to play with people who fit a general age bracket - but if i didn't tell you, you wouldn't realise I was older than I look. So I apply that logic the other way when I'm searching - I generally use a wider (older) age bracket than I'm looking for and then go off people pictures as well as the ages. Some people are younger or older than their chronological age.I would never abuse someone because they said I was too old (or too young for that matter) I wouldn't want to feel like I was screwing my Mum/Dad, or son/daughter.Good luck finding what you want sarah :)I have to agree with MissBJ, most sports you're not in prime until 25+, I know my game is still getting stronger - both faster, fitter, smarter. I'm a stronger, more dominant player at 30 than at 20 something. But that is just me. (PS where does ice hockey fit in the scheme of 'real men' playing sports? ;) )(sorry for the rambling post guys)
-
RHP User
16 years ago
I don't quite understand why anybody contacts someone out of their stated age range, but there you go, what do they expect other than rejection, and most people don't like rejection. That is always the 1st point where we hit the back button even if one of us is only a year out, convenient that its stated up near the top of a profile as well !!. Some people are really psycho about ages, but again thats up to them..who cares...move on! Personally i don't get why someone my age would be interested in a 21yo anyway, not much more than a child to me, but then age is relative isn't it. Cheers Nev
-
RHP User
16 years ago
Sarah poses a fair question and of course it is each individuals choice to choose or reject a partner no matter what the reason, she is not trying to villify older people. I am certainly not built like a greek god, rich or have a 10" penis like so many people claim to have but I have found the most amazing and beautiful loving woman on this site who is half my age. I took quite a while to contact her because I didn't believe her profile that she was interested in someone my age(pushing 50) if I'd believed her profile and contacted her then we would have been together 6 months earlier. In short READ the PROFILE and respect a persons choices - maybe contact them if you're only one or two years over the age but always respect them, you reap what you sow! To answer your question Sarah, any rejection hurts for any reason unfortunately there are a lot of wankers out there who don't know how to just say 'thanks, good luck to you' and then just move on. Good luck Sarah and keep asking questions....that's how people learn and grow. P.S. I am always shocked tho when I see a middle aged man in singlet and thongs half pissed on a Sat. night hit on an 18 year old (dressed to the nines, who obviously put in a big effort to look her best) but then calls her a snob when she politely says no thankyou. Guys some woman like older men some don't get over it!
-
RHP User
16 years ago
Wow, thanks everyone, I wasn't quite sure what to expect. I'll certainly take on the advice about not telling guys they're too old. I like the phrase "you've got a cool profile but your not what I'm looking for", thanks playfulminx. And to Missbj, and everyone else who pointed this out, I think I'll drop that bit about real men and sports, I'm starting to feel that I'm giving a lot of older sportier guys the wrong message there, thanks for that. To whitehawl77, nice to see you've changed your name. I don't know why you keep going on about younger men treating me badly, you've never met me or any of my dates. None of them have every treated me badly, so you must hang out with some pretty bad types if you see that sort of thing so often. And I do have some older male friends, but I don't date them, it's just not where I am in life right now. As for older guys being so great to younger girls, one girlfriends was badly abused by an older guy who claimed to worship her. I'm not saying all older guys are like that, but this guy was. I thought at first you were just having a bad week when you sent me those awful messages, but having read your forum posts I must agree with everyone else, it's just you and your just making your own life bad for yourself. Perhaps you should consider some counseling. Sorry to everyone for being too serious, and a special hello to Gaz, you always make me giggle.SF
-
RHP User
16 years ago
I am astounded at how much time people have to type such long replies lol Comes down to different strokes (pardon the pun) for different folks and whateva floats ya boat. Her body....her choice And.........I agree with mooka
-
RHP User
16 years ago
Hey SF long time no chat,I've gotta agree with most of the others, being told your too old does rub us up the wrong way, but so does being ignored. I tend to ignore age preferences as I reckon most girls are just putting up smoke screens and I've had a few ongoing message swaps with girls your age who weren't looking for older guys, go figure. So yeah, like the girls are saying, try a little more tact. As for whitehawk, I don't know what you two said to each other, but it sounds pretty ugly, and from his other forum posts I'm supprised RHP hasn't cancelled his accout, he's really bagged out younger people at every oppertunity.Oh and good luck with your exams, this is your last year here isn't it? How soon before you head back home?RHG
-
RHP User
16 years ago
lol.. you're welcome Sarahfun. Does that mean I'm in? hehe. Ok Ok ... it's awwright.. You're the same age as my eldest son... I dont go that young. :p Hugs Gaz <<<< spanks self furiously with wooden spoon. Down boy.
-
RHP User
16 years ago
maybe you should just reply with "Not what I'm after", instead of "too old". If they then persue it further and ask why, then give it to them!
-
RHP User
16 years ago
Sarah,A person over 25 sending you messages just sounds so gross..I personally wouldn't correspond with anyone who wasn't more than twice your age...(1 do have 2 daughters just 21);Peoples whole lives are reduced to a number...on which we are all judged..But for some people love does jump the age gap...and it all gets mixed up...Oh if life were so simple.... now what was the question?Mr. SR.
-
RHP User
16 years ago
egos are a brittle thing but if they, do not read your profile first wich clearly states what you are looking for than they are just plain ignorant, so why should she have to justify her respnse, if I said Im not lookin for and no offence to whoever is im just generalizing, some one who is married and a married person contacted me, why should I consider there feelings when they have not evan taken the time of day to cosider what im looking 4.. thanks 4 readin
-
RHP User
16 years ago
Do what makes you happy...Your youth is a sweet pleasure thing to enjoy....Have fun enjoying those lovely hot young men ...Who are so full of energy..mmmm...gotta love that...... Hey Aussieboy1986...I am not married wanna go for fish n chips at the beach and watch the sunset with a wine...hahhahahaaha...I bring my crazy pebble/ stick his head under the water dog..lol Silly kisses sweetpetite41<< wonders if I can do a reverse and be a couger..
-
RHP User
16 years ago
I think the problem is so many older guys pay NO ATTENTION to the age limits on profiles.
-
RHP User
16 years ago
i'm too old.. but then.. oh hang on... what was i saying again?LRE (um yes)
-
RHP User
16 years ago
Well i'm used to the "thanks but no thanks" replies. However i'd rather get one so at least I know where I stand. As for the age limit I rarely send a flirt/message if I'm outside their age range. This kinda limits my target audience as an older male. I prefer younger women, but most seem to be looking for guys around their own age. RHP warns you if you are outside their age range, so why waste a flirt/message when there isn't likely to be a positive outcome?
Boards
-
Hot Topics
Topics: 15120 Comments: 88301
-
Girls Ask
Topics: 1417 Comments: 10254
-
Guys Ask
Topics: 2519 Comments: 11676
-
Couples' Corner
Topics: 2506 Comments: 9772
-
Swingers Lifestyle
Topics: 1005 Comments: 5237
-
Fetish & Fantasy
Topics: 1302 Comments: 5784
-
Hot Travel
Topics: 782 Comments: 1993
-
LGBT
Topics: 170 Comments: 869
Forum help
-
Something related with that
-
Going somewhere & want to hook up?
-
Hasn't that topic been posted before?
RHP's popular dating tool
-
Where the heck did that topic go?
Discover what RHP is doing offline
-
RHP member's RL secrets
reply
like
Share